The strongest suggestion I can give is possibly getting the trained professionals on board. Sounds like your wife needs helps from the likes of a physiologist, psychiatrist, therapist or counselor!

If you are currently running your home as if it was some sort of "mental hospital" than why pretend it is? Call your local Police Department or Fire Department and get her out of the home and have her committed to a real mental health hospital. Let the trained professionals evaluate her and see if she has the qualifications to be recommended for a 72 hour 5150 hold.

Don't mess around with this to much, especially the fact that she's hurting herself, that for me would be a game changer and I'd be on the phone quick calling someone!

That's all I got, just call a professional, or the Police or the Fire Department or just dial 911 and see what a dispatcher has to say!

Good luck!

glad you recognise this as manipulation and control.

Can you move out? Might be the easiest way.

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this... It sounds very scary, and not at all fair to you. I would totally agree with what Aaron said, you can call your local police department and tell them you fear she's going to hurt herself, and they will put her on a 72 hour old. Do you have a friend you can go and stay with? You can possibly take advantage of her 72 hour hold, and move some stuff out. It sounds like for your sanity, you need to totally remove yourself from this situation :(

So sorry you are going through this. Has she been through any type of therapy, counseling? It might be helpful for you too talk to a counselor to get some ideas. Do you have local support with friends or family?

~Ducktapetherapy77

She sounds like borderline personality disorder.

While I agree that she needs help.....so do you. I strongly recommend a counselor to help you sort out what you want, and a lawyer to help you with the legal side. And I strongly suggest that you get both on board before you make any decisions.

Do you have any children together?

I think Patti 22 hit the nail on the head.....She said she would kill herself....my opinion....a cry for help.

Shlay, I have an Ex I am pretty sure has a borderline personality. Lots of mindgames with her and I never realized it unitl things were over. I found this site a while back and it explained a lot to me and has some very good advice.

http://shrink4men.com/

@OP.....I am sorry to hear your predicament. Someone said you should move, bad idea if you ask me. You can go to the court, speak to the clerks and they will advice you on how to start the application.

love is very short lived when its good its good when its bad its very very bad and only get worse. Once the *some* women know they cant control the man they start losing interest. *some* women seek control over everything once they have been with you for a while.