Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
found out today that my abusive ex husband knocked up his girflfriend...and my former best friend and coworker. i don't know if he's abusive with her or not, probably wouldn't doubt it, a leopard can't change his spots especially when he can't admit he has spots in the first place. it stings a little bit because i've always wanted children. it seems like he's getting everything out of life and i'm stuck struggling, i wasn't born with a silver spoon in his mouth like he was. i also feel sorry for the child, and am quite concerned about how he'll react to a screaming baby in the middle of the night or if he'll even notice a baby is there while he's playing xbox. just had to vent. i'm not in this support group because of the divorce with him, i'm glad he's out of my life. but come on lord, when do i get to catch a break?
It's annoying/humiliating/painful/hilarious/questionable (pick one) but that's just the reality of it.
He and the baby are not your problems. They are your conniving ex BFF/coworker's problem.
Just be grateful you didn't have a child with this abuser.
(((Hugs))) to you...keep the faith...that things will get better.
That doesn't defray the hurt for you though. The thing is karma has a way of making sure things work out. Live your life the way you want to live it, happiness will come to you. You just gotta believe!
Hugs and peace.
have you thought about pursuing financial aid options so that you can go to college or trade school?
Im very sorry that you are hurting :( My ex got another woman pregnant while we were married. He didnt even want this woman, she was just a 4 week fling while he was away on military business. I though when I found out it would kill me. I was beyond devastated. I guess what Im trying to say is I know how badly this hurts.
Continue to focus on you and the new, healthy life you are able to have without him. And yes..count your lucky stars you DIDNT have a child with you abuser. I did, and my nightmare will not end for many years to come. You have a new chance at a healthy life..get out there and grab it!!
Bluemoon - you did catch a break - you didn't have a child with him and now you have the whole world before you and time to make that decision.
Lynne
i ended up in the hospital for a few days w/health issuses, from all the strees, and the flu. he the same guy who walked out on his family, went to court while i was in the hospital, and tryed to get full custdy of our daughter.
thank fully i have in a place a leagal doument, that says in my absents that my mom, who i live w/ can take over physicaly custdy until am well engough to have it returned. the only thing she had to do was go to the court house and show them this paper, because both he /i singed it. their was nothing he was able to but get temporray vistion.
when it went back to court the man i thought was a tigger (realy a lepard) he got in himself in a load of hot water, and now has supervised vistion, my mom will keep physcial custdoy of my little until after the new baby is born, in case something happens to me, during this pergancy, and he trys to pull and more bs.
and mine also cheated w/a "good friend" of mine, she came clean but still cut me a break. trust me it hurts, but when a guy takes your kid for the day, who has done what he has and theirs nothing u can do. it worse.
remeber their is no excuss for abuse. and the sky is blue, the grass is green, and men dont change. a dog is a dog.
It must feel like a slap in the face, but think of the reality of it. - better you are away from what seems like a loser.
hugs to you