You weren't just going through stuff you were going through memories and you were feeling close again. It happens!It does not neccessarily mean anymore than that.

I guess stuff like that does happen. I am so horny right now I would do it with the mailman ... kidding..

I can tell you first hand that it gets jumbled up along the line. I have been doing that since my husband left. And it has always been him that initiates it. Although I didnt mind, this is his game, his rules. I did it and took from it what I needed. I never thought it meant he was coming home. I did it because it was familiar and very nice. I didnt mix up reality with sex. He ended up doing that. And what sucks more is that he got all tangled up in reality. And thought that I must have been too. Not the case. To me it was sex. He ended it because he didnt want me to think he was using me..HA HA now thats funny because from the first time I did it I knew what it was. Just be careful with that. Because he turned it around because he couldnt handle it anymore. And now I am a sexless single, just like everyone else now. LOL... Just take it for what it is. Dont read anything into it.

Just rambling on some advice. I hope some of it is helpful.

Thanks folks. I know the marriage is over. Right after we were finished she went right back to work packing me up. I guess we were both horny and right now we are familiar with each other. I was so twilight zoneish. I was the same as it has been for the last 9 years. Then bam!!! back to the real world. I know that we are still married but after all of the hurting, to go back to that. BTW it was ok.

It is very ok. And I liked it and would have loved to have him again and again. But he is the coward who couldnt handle it..LOL.. And he should have all his ducks in a row because he is the one who left. Same as with you. Funny you referred to it as the Twilight Zone..Because that is what I call my lift too.. Now we are in the Twilight Zone together..And Rod Serling is nowhere to be found.

My situation is the same as 3746. I was fully aware it was just sex & nothing else. The times I told him as such, HE got offended & upset! Does he think I would keep doing it if THAT was what was causing the breakdowns? I guess he was hoping, oh well. Unfortunately he hasn't stopped & I'm actually trying to find the strength to say no more & mean it. He wanted out & I have to stop letting him have the best of both worlds.

My STBX and I had several, outstanding sex sessions for 3 months. BUT, had to keep in mind thats sex, the relationship part is still hosed. Just made things harder for me. If you can do this and keep your distance, protect yourself, more power to you. personally I am unable to keep my heart out of it.

Wouldn't want it, not sure where's he's been ...

I know that I wouldn't want to. I know who shes been with, but not so sure about him.

I would never do it again with my STBX ( god knows where that pecker has been and with what gender).. how can you be so callous.. this person cause you so much pain.....sorry I simply don't get it....

My stbx has been trying and trying. She destroyed the marriage with an affiar. She is still with the guy (who she says reminds her so much of me! WTF)
Last night she said I should take her up on it because the well was going to run dry. My reply: I'll go drill for another well.
No way after all the pain and sorrow she has caused can I feel intimate in anyway with her. I can't even look her in the eyes without feeling total contempt for her.

My ex went through a phase when every time he came around me he had to touch me..touch my face or my back.. finally told him to stop..wouldn't have sex with that man in a million years..he doesn't deserve me..

I just did this weekend and it was great but now I am starting to think that it is to pain full for me to keep doing this. So is it really worth hurting my self again.My friends think that I am crazy for having sex with my stbx and im not sure if I am or not.It's good to hear that I'm not the only one with this going on in their life

I am really not understand this either. I don't think I can ever have sex with my STBX again. I want to but I don't think I can get past the thought of who else has he been with.

Can't ever see it happening.