Sorry, Brother. I know it hurts bad. The pain in your chest, insomnia, constant thoughts of why? How? Who else? Words don't mean a thing right now but time eases the pain. Personally I just started thinking of all the bad stuff she did and all of the arguments. I am not an outgoing person but I had to reach out and talk about it to family and friends. I broke down in my Doctors office in front of staff. Now Im a big guy, career cop, Army Vet. It damn near broke me. We started talking on the phone for hours but she made it clear we were done. Then....I don't want to talk anymore. Now I have to get over it a little more. The finality of it has hit. Hang tough. Hang in there.

I feel your pain man. I will never understand how, in the face of such a gesture true love, someone could be capable of such a response. so bereft of compassion and consideration for another human beings feelings. I'm relatively fresh out of a break-up that i never saw coming and I've driven myself crazy and typed out countless paragraphs of what i want to say to her. how i would win her back. but before i hit send, i always run it by my sponsor and my sober network (im in recovery). I am always told that it will only lead to more pain. that maybe one day, but now is not the time, especially while i am so emotional. that has saved me of MUCH more grief. i dont know what i would do if i received a response like that. i always say to myself, that it cant get any worse. it ALWAYS can get worse brother. Resist the urge to fight and try to accept life on life's terms. Pain is a resistance to change. if its meant to be, it will be. Feel whatever you need to feel for however long you need to feel it. Keep talking about it, we are all here for you. Hugs and Prayers. you are not alone

I know just what you are going through and regret is almost as worse as a broken heart because you feel like you are not only back where you started from but also even more heart broken. My heart goes out to you and I am so sorry but there is a positive in this which is at least now you know and you will not have to wonder or worry or say "what if " . Now you know where you stand and you know the feeling of taking a few steps backwards which you don't want that feeling again.. Well pick yourself up and keep your chin high because the other option is soaking and staying in pause mode and that does not serve you well. You are stronger than you think you are. You did come very far and you will again . This is a great place to vent, post your doubts and questions and concerns. You could try therapy or just start to be around people , family and friends and keep yourself busy. Don't focus on the steps backwards focus on the steps that you will take to go forward doing what you did before. We live and learn and pain takes time to heal but some pains are good because it teaches us right from wrong and again to live and learn. You will be ok I know you will. Remember chin up :)

It's ironic but women who are pulling away from us rarely act well to men who appear broken down and weak and I made similar mistakes because I really did love my wife with everything I had and my kids and there was nothing I could possibly do. The problem was I was having trouble accepting that the other person didn't feel the same way we did because how could you just fall out of love like that when we don't feel that way at all, and by showing our Pure vulnerability it actually has the opposite effect on the female psyche which we have been conditioned to believe are more sensitive than we are but I do not believe that that is the actual case. I believe men are conditioned to project strength which is actually a form of weakness when you can't be emotionally honest. The irony is the ideal man to a woman is a contradiction: strong and sensitive and these are two different things men have more simple personalities and tend to be one or the other to varying degrees. Perhaps I'm just talking out of my ass and I'm subscribing to generalizations and I'm just wrong and this is nothing more than a stream of consciousness. I will say this though when our women leave us and we beg them to stay they never do. It's when we get our act together, project that were totally fine, independent, capable, atonomous, and hardworking and that's the only chance we have to have them come back to us and frankly they may never come back anyway but at least then you're a strong independent man who will attract another woman who will show you true love and respect and not abandon you. I like the second half of my post better.