I imagine that you are feeling anxious with what may come of the situation. I would be. It may be that your husband has been observing differences while inside his private mind for quite some time, of which hidden influences may be adding friction between the two of you. And often times a wife has absolutely no idea what's going on when strong issues arise. Better time for him to clue you in though, because your thoughts and feelings are very important. Yet then he may at some point decide to sit down and talk or discuss the whole matter. Let's assume that he only needs a few more days to think out his safe approach, okay? Just be patient for now. After all, it is in his favor that he has helped you find a place to live, and he left a standing word to work things through, even with the wise idea of keeping a date night, that's all encouraging behavior. Perhaps the feeling of the unknown is marking those upsetting, heavy ideas for you. And as you do mention that hope is in this upcoming Tuesday; surely, I say just find something to keep your mind off or away from those strong, active imaginations. You are okay. :-)

Best to you!

Thank you.

He has backout out of marriage counseling once and told me now he isn’t ready for date nights.

He just said he needs time and space. I’m having so much harder not feeling loved.

Honey, if he is not saying that the love is gone, you are still very loved. I can't tell you how many times I've experienced those awful thoughts. And the way of thoughts is moved towards the negative at odd times, especially when we overthink things of which we've already figured out the truth. I do that at times, but only for a few seconds of doubt. I check my thought often for the balanced, harmonious ideas.

Do the brave thing and give him a bit of space for now, dear one. Keep this in mind: Those of us who love, and have loved, and will love will know the things that matter; it's a promise.

Lots of hugs to you! <3 It's my pleasure to see you in comfort :-)

He told me he wasn’t “in love with me” anymore but he still loves me. It’s so confusing.

Okay, I see with a better understanding. So sorry for your anguish. In love or simply love there is really a noticeable difference between these emotions. It is good that he is honest with you though, and his honesty is confusing to you until he better explains. He's a maze right now, for sure! Seems that he's given up the hope for mutual shared happiness, and he is sort of going for that you do your thing and I'll do mine approach, huh? But he still wants to go for counseling and I believe that waiting him out is still promising for you. I know how curios it seems to get inside his head, yet you may not be able to bear all that he's thinking, so take it slow and try not to pressure him for direct answers. Any pressure he feels may prove to him that you are too needy, which I don't think that you are, though pressing for answers may open an excuse for him to avoid further trying to mend things between you. I'd go out and treat you to a slight makeover. Perhaps treat yourself to a new hairdo or perfume, go to the spa for relaxation treatment. Time to go for a new approach to give him a new eye to who you really are as a love interest; he needs to remind himself of why he married you; you may help him. Dig through old photos to remember your style during the dating days. I do believe that if he would only listen to your heart he would behave better. However many times, in this world of great temptations, some men are dazzled by outward appearances. So a slight change in personal scenery may liven things up for your marriage. I really hope for you a steady relationship too. However, what you are going through is so typical these days. Just find something magnetic to do for the sake of blowing his mind back to his common senses. You may very well be the best thing that ever happened to him :-) Keep in touch. You have my best prayers. God bless you.

Thank you. The tough part is living alone. I’ve never been on my own my entire life. Everyone says this will be good for me but all I can do is cry and wish he was here with me. The hard part is not knowing what he’s going through - does he miss me or is he having fun.