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I know that what I've been going thru could be considered depression to a degree and I'm finding that each day is getting a little better.
With that said, even though the mindset is improving, I still don't have much of an appetite over the past week and a half, losing 12 pounds since 1/12. I don't eat anywhere near what I used to and have only had maybe 3 meals of any substance since. I realize that I need to drop a few pounds but this isn't the way I had planned to do so!
I've been using as meals stuff that I used to consider a snack or even a light lunch. To give you an idea of an average day's consumption, yesterday it was two little frozen burritos for a brunch at work and later on two plain hot dogs (no bread or anything with them). My last decent meal was on Monday night when I had a light salad at Applebee's.
I know its not healthy what I'm doing but I just haven't felt like eating anything more. I don't feel physically weak and I'm hoping I get my appetite back soon.
Did anyone else go thru this or are you doing it now and has anything helped?
With that said, even though the mindset is improving, I still don't have much of an appetite over the past week and a half, losing 12 pounds since 1/12. I don't eat anywhere near what I used to and have only had maybe 3 meals of any substance since. I realize that I need to drop a few pounds but this isn't the way I had planned to do so!
I've been using as meals stuff that I used to consider a snack or even a light lunch. To give you an idea of an average day's consumption, yesterday it was two little frozen burritos for a brunch at work and later on two plain hot dogs (no bread or anything with them). My last decent meal was on Monday night when I had a light salad at Applebee's.
I know its not healthy what I'm doing but I just haven't felt like eating anything more. I don't feel physically weak and I'm hoping I get my appetite back soon.
Did anyone else go thru this or are you doing it now and has anything helped?
I'm sure my appetite will return, I just need to do as you are and start eating healthier. The last week was hell between what was going on in my life plus an extremely busy, stressful period at work and all that definitely took its toll.
Baby steps...
I think most go through this. gave a a smokin' body. Of course, I'm relationship repellant so it doesn't do me much good. LMAO
Make sure you are getting the proper nutrition. Sudden weight loss can lead to other problems while your immune system is compromised.
Go to a doctor for a complete checkup. Tell them you are under extreme stress and you want to check everything out.
I went for my physical...she noted my drastic weight loss, and I was upfront about my personal stress, and it turned out I had a stress-induced ulcer. The stomach pains, for whatever reason, I just ignored,and I honestly didn't realize I had zero appetite.
Getting checked out is a good idea. Your physical health is just as important as any of the others.
Tonight is going to add to the stress. In about an hour, I'll go visit my granddaughter at my Ex's house. That's the only place that I get a chance to see her. Gotta keep composed...
I actually found out that the stress my ex was putting on me caused me to gain weight. Distancing myself from her was a mental as well as physical relief.
For me, depression is definitely a mental and not a physical thing. While I was depressed, I slept and ate as normal. But my ex called me a robot. I think it was because, she had drained me so much, I just didn't have any emotion left.
The most important thing for depression is to try to take care of yourself. I find the best way (and highly recommended) is to make sure you get exercise. Not all of us can go and play hours of basketball or go to the gym, but just going out and walking can work wonders. Not only do you get exercise, but you get quiet time to process things.
This phase will pass and youll gain the weight back because your body and metabolism will adjust to the decreased calories in the meantime. Once you ramp the calories back up, youll be putting those lbs back on.