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3 weeks has past since my wife left me. 3 weeks of misery, pain and guilt for having my marriage fail.
I feel I have made the steps needed to move forward but everytime I feel somewhat good about myself another wrench gets thrown into the mix and fall back into the pain and tears.
I commented earlier about how she is pushing for the house to be sold which has left me at a loss as I love my home and the environment, now the thought of having to sell scares me and looking for an apartment cause I cannot afford a house.
Now just today, while I was out she came to the house to remove some of her belongings which hurt deep to see them gone. She has taken our dog and removed all of his things too. I have been hearing things about the last 4 months of my marriage and how she has been associating with a friend of hers who is known to break up relationships for her own gain so that she has the "wing woman" to hang out with. I heard that she talked my ex to go see a physic who apparently told her that her marriage would fail, at that time my ex confided to other friends but never discussed it with me for potential solutions on how to make our marriage work. I have also heard that she has been dragging my name through the mud that I was unsupportive of her in her time of need during her cancer, finding out she was adopted. I also find out that she has been telling others that I was a "baby" for wanting to spend more time with her.
I am at a total loss and sorry for the ramble, I am just so hurt and confused by all of this that I have no idea what to do or how to proceed.
I feel I have made the steps needed to move forward but everytime I feel somewhat good about myself another wrench gets thrown into the mix and fall back into the pain and tears.
I commented earlier about how she is pushing for the house to be sold which has left me at a loss as I love my home and the environment, now the thought of having to sell scares me and looking for an apartment cause I cannot afford a house.
Now just today, while I was out she came to the house to remove some of her belongings which hurt deep to see them gone. She has taken our dog and removed all of his things too. I have been hearing things about the last 4 months of my marriage and how she has been associating with a friend of hers who is known to break up relationships for her own gain so that she has the "wing woman" to hang out with. I heard that she talked my ex to go see a physic who apparently told her that her marriage would fail, at that time my ex confided to other friends but never discussed it with me for potential solutions on how to make our marriage work. I have also heard that she has been dragging my name through the mud that I was unsupportive of her in her time of need during her cancer, finding out she was adopted. I also find out that she has been telling others that I was a "baby" for wanting to spend more time with her.
I am at a total loss and sorry for the ramble, I am just so hurt and confused by all of this that I have no idea what to do or how to proceed.
Did you agree she should take the dog?
It hurts when those you love treat you this way, but if you show her you're moving on and are ready to live life without her, you'll begin to feel a little bit better.
There's something called the 180. Usually used following infidelity to help the betrayed spouse live a happy life without the cheating spouse.
It involves getting out and socialising, taking care of yourself, getting fit, doing stuff you like, just doing stuff to make you feel good about yourself and not wallowing in self pity and letting your spouse win by you being miserable.
You mourn the end of your marriage and seek therapy if necessary, then move on peacefully.
She just left 3 weeks ago , so she doesn't get to rush you like this.