Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Wthdoidonext 11/28/2016

Saw my ex at church for first time in two months. he smiled at me and said good morning. after church he asked how I was doing. he knew I had been to the ER in the beginning of the month. small town and all...I said not that good. and walked out. he texted me asked if I was ok. told him what was going on and he apologized for causing me so much hurt and heartbreak. I miss him so much...and still care for him even though he blames me for his attempts to take his life this summer.

This shouldn't hurt this much. I know that but he said he still cares about me so why did he leave, why did he try to kill himself, why did he start seeing a woman he met in the psych unit. why...

Every time I closed my eyes I saw his face yesterday. he looked good. always did.

KCxo 11/28/2016

I too feel your pain. I'm here to listen if you need to talk xx

kbbcoop77 11/28/2016

I would switch churches. Church is for healing, running into an ex you care about is not conducive to healing at all.

Wthdoidonext 11/28/2016

Pastor has been very important to me and helping me to heal. He is amazing and helped me work through the pain. Can't leave such a wonderful pastor who doesn't have to do what he has done for me. I know I will make it through but helps to have pastors support

kbbcoop77 11/28/2016

Oh I see..can u go at different times, I know some churches have services twice on Sunday's. The less u see or interact with your ex the better

Wthdoidonext 11/28/2016

That's what has been happening he had been going to late service and I was going to early. His daughter was acolyte yesterday for early service and he was going hunting after

iiSUNSHiN3 11/29/2016

Forgiveness is so important. Forgiveness is never about the other person but for you. It allows us to be free of all those feelings that come with whatever someone did to us. It seems as if you haven't forgiven him for blaming you for his suicidal attempts and breaking up with you because he seems to still have power to affect you. He probably does care about you, but his selfishness has caused things to drift apart between you two. Until you have forgiven him and feel no pain or any negative feelings toward him stay far away from him. Continue to seek counseling with your pastor maybe mention to your pastor about asking him to attend a different service until you have forgiven him and healed from the wounds still on your heart. Focus on healing and focus on yourself.
-praying for your the healing of your wounded heart. Big hugs and lots of love and peace to you. :)

Wthdoidonext 11/29/2016

Thanks I really miss the friend. Thought I was doing better. But that's before I saw his face and locked eyes with him and his smile. Well I miss it. He has moved on so I must too. Pastor has been really good about supporting me. So that has been positive.

iiSUNSHiN3 12/01/2016

It's great your pastor has been a big support for you. Staying focus on the good and positive things in your life help to open your eyes to the world around you. Pray for him that he gets the help he needs. He's not the only person in the world that will be your friend. You just have to open yourself up to those possibilities. I hope your doing well

- :)

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