Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I was doing pretty good, but lately I am back to being sad Its almost how I felt in the beginning. I don't think I feel sad about missing him, maybe just the person I thought he was. I think its a lot to do with I am feeling really alone. I know he has all his women so he is not feeling alone, and that is also making me sad. I really can't feel this way tomorrow once again we have the mediator meeting. The last two times, once because of her, and once because of him the meeting that I prepared myself emotionally for, did not take place. Once again I have to prepare myself to sitting down with him I need to be strong and not cry like I did last time in front of him. I really want to get out of this depression, I keep feeling like I will be alone for the rest of my life and I guess that is not a healthy way of thinking or even worrying about at this point.
I am so sorry to hear you going through this. I think we all battle between being angry and being sad. Are you in counseling? I find that to be a great help to sort through things. I have been in and out of counseling for most of my adult life.
I know what you mean about the depression. I get it so bad sometimes it actually physically hurts. You know the old saying time heals all wounds. It will and you will be a stronger and happier person for it.
(((((hugs)))))
We dont want that for ourselves. So while I HATE being alone I rather find solace with myself so that I can be a better women to the person I am truly meant to be with.
We are all here for you!
Sorry a little bitter right now. People shouldn't play with other people's feelings. People tell lies to get what they want and its not funny, it is downright evil.
Siege I wish you had magic dust also I would give anything to just forget him.
Thanks again it always feel nice to know people care and that they understand what you are going through
Big hugs to you.
Lynne
My advice... let yourself grieve, crying can be therapeutic... and let yourself cry in front of him if you have to. This situation is sad, and you have every right to show your honest feelings, and if that means crying, then you're being honest with yourself and him by showing that you are extremly sad. But being sad won't be permanent feeling if you don't let it be. Try to distract yourself by working, I don't know if you have kids if you do by playing with them, reading books you like it'll help you to not think of him so much... but there will be times you have meltdowns and need to cry, and that's okay... that's normal... you'll have your highs and lows... the day of my break up I went to work and going there helped to distract me, I actually wanted to go instead of crawling under the covers and thinking about it... and then the next day I had to go home on lunch and just cry for awhile, then it's today and I'm okay for today... day by day things... surprisingly my break up just happend a few days ago, and as devastating as it is, I have to say I saw it coming, but in order for my ex and myself to work on ourselves we had to break... I'm hopeful that we can be together again in time, but all the while not getting my hopes up. Try to make this change a positive one for you and you alone. Within a negative can come a positive, that's really the motto I live by, and also you never know if you don't try. Be open to all possibilities, and if you feel stuck just know it won't be a permanent situation. I have kids and so my focus is on them and as much as I want to grieve to the extent that I do, I can't because it'll eat me alive, but I also don't want to just pretend like I shouldn't be sad, because my situation is sad, but being distracted helps me I find. I hope you find your way when you're ready... you're a good person who deserves good people in their lives who uplift you not try to be vindictive to you. I wish you the best.
I think that is a good idea about a reward for myself after the mediator. I am going to so something nice for myself. I am not going to let him bother me. know matter what happens. Tomorrow is another day I know and I am just hoping it is one of my good days. I can never tell what sets me off, I suppose it is just to much thinking. thanks again for all you thoughts and support it really makes me feel good. You have to have gone through what we have gone through to understand, the ups and downs so thanks.