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bigtimeloser 07/22/2016

hey there all!!

So it will be a week since my husband left without saying a word. Hes fed up and had enough of me. However, Im so confused cause he still has all the house keys and comes around when I need something. Is this really the end or will time and space make things better???

joshk 07/22/2016

I'm sorry to hear this. I like to hope your husband will come back. Maybe he just needs a break.

ClearDay1 07/22/2016

I'm not sure what his motivations are, but I'm confused as to why you're allowing this?

If it were me, and he was so "fed up", he could leave and give me the keys and I'd file for divorce.

Why haven't you two had a conversation about this?

Are you planning on giving in to manipulation and changing for him?

This is just game playing and manipulation.

bigtimeloser 07/22/2016

Thanks to the both!
As to why I haven't jumped the gun into filing and asking for the key back is because I still want it to work. I'm the one to blame with my lies and manipulation and he's warned me before. I take fault in it all and am working on myself and changing for myself. On the road to recovery from my addiction

ClearDay1 07/22/2016

I see:). Well it seems you need to have a discussion about it.

Good for you for actively working on yourself and what's not working in your life. It's essential for your well being and happiness.

We can't drag another along on our journey. They either choose to be there or not.

It's your journey, and just as he can't change or "fix" you, you can't change for him. You have to do it for yourself.

The threats, the coming and going...not conducive to healing or recovery.

Seems he has a choice- stay or go, but I would suggest a talk to put the cards on the table.

Who can live with all that upset in their environment?

bigtimeloser 07/22/2016

It's only been A week and I don't know if it's too soon to bring up such talks and "stir" thing up?? Ugh why why is this so hard when I'm the one that pushed him away

ClearDay1 07/22/2016

I don't know, but I think your focus needs to be on yourself.

Even if he comes back, will it work?

You have to let him go to make his own choices.

In my situation, it was not OK to have constant drama, and to save myself he had to go.

I can't live with the constant upset, regardless of who's "right" or who's "wrong".

You have to decide what's right for you.

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