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Wow, wow, wow. I ordered a book called "Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal". I am absolutely blown away. It talks about Wife Abandonment Syndrome (WAS). The book is specifically for women who thought they had a happy marriage but their husbands left suddenly with no explanation (many times it's due to an affair). It describes exactly what I've been going through and how to recover from it. I highly recommend the book for women (or men) who have been suddenly abandoned by a spouse and are feeling hopeless. The book describes in detail the phases you need to go through in order to heal from this specific case.
Here's the description from the back of the book:
Wife Abandonment Syndrome is a pattern of behavior on the part of the husband who leaves his wife out-of-the-blue without ever having told her that he was unhappy in the marriage. Following his sudden departure, he replaces the caring he'd typically shown her with anger and aggression. He often moves directly in with a girlfriend, leaving his bewildered wife totally devastated.
There's also a website called www.runawayhusbands.com
Here's the description from the back of the book:
Wife Abandonment Syndrome is a pattern of behavior on the part of the husband who leaves his wife out-of-the-blue without ever having told her that he was unhappy in the marriage. Following his sudden departure, he replaces the caring he'd typically shown her with anger and aggression. He often moves directly in with a girlfriend, leaving his bewildered wife totally devastated.
There's also a website called www.runawayhusbands.com
((((hugs)))) to you, I understand what you are going through!
I am glad you are finding the book helpful.
I hope your friend responds in favor. Just remember, your emotions are high, you are already feeling mistrust in almost everything and everyone, so when you respond to her response try not to be negative, or place blame. Just tell your friend why you feel like you do and be humble enough to accept what she may say.
KAW: ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Yep--I can count myself in the out-of-the-blue abandoneds as well.
Things get better.
This strikes such a cord..
He was affectionate without a sign of what was to come right up until he told me a strange tale of he didn't know if he was in love with someone at work or not or if it was just the act she played for her job..
Very strange story hard to wade through.. then he says we should work on it for a year..
Then we are three weeks into and he says he is staying it's where he wants to be.. 2 night later she calls him on the way home and he leaves.. so 0 to 120 my life changed .. now two months into it and selling the house I've lived in for 14 years.. He has ruined my life in the matter of 8 weeks start to finish..
What an A-hole.. no one does that to someone without being devoid of integrity and he has totally lost my respect as a good human being.
couldn't be closer to the book if I tried writing it myself.
I downloaded a sample of the book and it described EXACTLY what I was feeling and going through, my actions and reactions...I am completely normal! And his behavior from the very start was also textbook (even though I still believe he's a farging bastage), he went from being a kind and considerate husband to a shell of a man devoid of compassion and decency. He knows it and I know it and that relationship he jumped into...it will fail. It's only a matter of time.