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Roller coaster ride behavior of so be ex

jeannievargas
jeannievargas
Hello everyone, I haven't been quite a year my husband ask for a divorce, we lostedforever our home, but his behavior I can't understand one minute I love you next minute I hate you " I wouldn't sleep in the same bed as you I rather sleep in a with someone I hate the most" this what he say to me some of the comments are verbally abusive I'm disable I suffer in pain everyday physical pain and now it emotional pain I have start packing but I can't sleep at night I have no energy I don't leave the house and when I do I get a million call from him he made me erase his number, then he complaints that I don't answer the phone, this is my second marriage, please help me me what do I do
murphytoronto
murphytoronto
what an abusive situation you are in

My sympathy and hugs go out to you

My wife of 19 years abused me in the last year before she left me
I too suffer daily physical pain and limitations

I hope you find outside support and get out of there

2 years since she moved out...I still hurt everyday

my second marriage too

But I now have a wonderful woman who loves and appreciates me for who I am

Once you are free from him.....it will get better in time
helerown
helerown
I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship. I found a local women's shelter that offers weekly support groups for emotionally and physically abused woman. It has been a god send. I would research something like that in your area online and give them a call. You will realize how common and disgusting his behavior is.
playerapr
playerapr
I'm so sorry for your pain. Breaking up is like a roller coaster ride, ups and downs, with lots of turns and twists in between. At the end of the ride you get to get off a new person and hopefully a better one. In your situation, as painful as it can be, is time to walk away, no man or woman deserver to be disrespected or abuse physically or emotionally.
Praying for strength and your inner peace. Stay strong.
MyTrueColors
MyTrueColors
Please contact your local women's shelter. They should be able to refer you to therapists and attorneys who understand the dynamics of abuse. Plus, as heleown said, most shelters offer free weekly support groups.

Unfortunately, abusers rarely get better. They usually only get worse. Joint counseling with an abuser never works. It actually only works against you because the abuser learns more about you and uses it against you.

Please get into therapy with a qualified therapist who not only understands the dynamics of abuse, but also has additional training in recovery from trauma and abuse.

Do NOT tell him you are doing any of this. He WILL use it against you.

This is the number for the National DV Hotline. They can give you additional information about shelters in your area. 18007997233

~healing hugs~

PS, there is a great physical & emotional abuse support group here on DS.
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical-Emotional-Abuse/forum
Aries1958
Aries1958
I'm sorry for what you are experiencing. He is very abusive. Seriously, you should consider blocking his number. I'm sorry that you suffer from chronic pain. Do you have a friend who can assist you with packing? Another option is to pay a mover to pack for you. Hugs to you.