Just know that these feelings you are having are going to pass....Rock bottom is good for growth, crappy but it's part of what develops us..a lot of times we cling unintentionally to bad feelings.......now I know you probably are thinking "Why would I want to cling to this..this is the worst feeling ever", but I just speak from experience and lot's of reading. I just started therapy to work through this " rock bottom" feeling as well. I describe it the same way as you had the other day.....when I found out my ex was sleeping with someone else. That was my rock bottom, but I knew that I needed to hit rock bottom. Rock bottom is good..because the only way out is up. Emotionally when you feel so low..there is nothing you can do but continue to just lay there and stay at the bottom, or rise. It sounds like you don't want to feel this way anymore. What is it that has caused you to hit your rock bottom do you think?

I hit rock bottom when my wife told me she was done. That was 3.5 months ago. It was strange because we always hear about someone hitting rock bottom, but until you are there you have no idea it exists. Well yes, it does. Now what to do about it..? Well the good news is the only direction is up...This is what I did/am doing. I quit alcohol completely because I knew this is not something I want to deal with hungover. Havent had a drop since March 3rd. When I am feeling low, which I still do time to time, I exercise..either on a treadmill, bike or take a long walk with lots of hills, force yourself to sweat. The endorphins this releases are priceless. You do not want to sit at home and suffer with your thoughts..they can really get you down. It was helpful to cry a bit the first couple months, but never for too long..You have to stay busy, and this is the hard part...NO CONTACT. Evertime you contact your ex that wound just reopened. My wife left my daughter and I (daughter is 17 so thank God for that)..I keep reminding myself this..SHE LEFT. This was her choice. So when I get some email from her or text regarding our daughter, I pass it along to her and let her answer her mother, I dont need to go down that road anymore..Good Luck, its a bumpy road for sure but you need to think about you..! *HUGS*

Rock bottom - and then again, how do we know that's rock bottom and that later on in life we won't experience something even worst? - So who knows right. But I think what you mean you are going through a very tuff time in your life and you have no support. I feel you. Well for me when I felt that way, you know, when my 65 yr old mother died w/pancreatic cancer, my 35 yr old husband died in motorcycle wreck, etc, what I did was shift my attention to others. Yup, I came around people that were dealing w/worst situations, I read about other people's crisis and sorrow and that helped me realize that what I was going through was simply part of life. I read a lot of books on the topic as well. Like there is one that touches on the 7 most truamatic things that can happen to an individual. I think the title is "Life is not Ideal, deal with it".

BTW, the support I got came from going to church and counseling - sometimes friends don't even know what to say when they see us dealing w/grief. I even had a bf cheat on me when mother died, he said I was always irritable so he went off and found ppl that were in a better mood - madness. Anyways, I am sorry for whatever it is that you are dealing with but you are the only one that can turn things around. So start seeking solutions. Is not where you are but where you are heading. Yesterday doesn't matter, make NOW and tomorrow count.

Maybe I am not much help - sorry, I believe in drawing strength from within - we only have OURSELVES.

Good luck.

does laying in bed clicking the tv remote count as exercise?---just kidding (kind of). How I am coping, if you can call it that, is spending more time with family and friends. I read a ton and lately I've been reading some books on grief, I have learned a lot of things regarding my STBX and our relationship as well as ways to handle the triggers that happen at a drop of a hat. I am also walking more and just enjoying the outdoors. I hope to heck that I've reached rock bottom and I loved the comment the only way out is up. I am taking life one day at a time, one second at a time. Some days are ok and some days just plain suck but getting up each day, thinking positive thoughts and reaching out to others is a great way to be back among the living. I heard a statement once when someone said "my life sucks" his wife looked at him and said, "well, I'm part of your life, I don't suck". That has forever stayed with me so during this hard time of life "some parts" of our life sucks BUT not all of it. So heads up everyone, fake smiles in place and get living again!!!!

YouGoSpam..Actually clicking the remote can help, as long as you watch the correct programs lol. Comedies can be a real breath of fresh air..laughter is soooo therapeutic! My daughter is out of school now, so I am really looking forward to spending more time with her now, she makes me laugh, she knows we are in this together, mom LEFT, and she realizes that. I get some great texts from her, and if Im feeling down she snaps me back pretty quickly. She will encourage me to take the dogs down to the dog beach or out for a walk..we attended an art festival last weekend..be grateful for what you have, every day really is a gift. Hang in there!

My current favorite movie to watch to make me laugh Is walk of shame. I would say I finally hit rock bottom when I realized nothing was going to get better between us. I just got to the point where I felt extremely hopeless because I actually do have to start from the bottom. I have had to deal with 3 deaths and a pending divorce. I have a difficult time with no contact because we have a three year old together and I will always love to hear that he loves his daughter but it just hurts because we no longer have that between us and in order for myself to heal I need no contact. Im just exhausted. I know my situation could be worse and sometimes it does help me to realize this. The kicker is though I do not think there has ever been a time when im not grieving something and it gets to be too much at times.

Charlie girl..the last sentence in your last remark,"The kicker is though I do not think there has ever been a time when im not grieving something and it gets to be too much at times. "
I think that is a huge break thought in your self awareness which could actually be something that you could focus on that might possibly be the foundation of your path to better mental health. I'm sorry..I'm a psych student and I love it when I see things like that. There is hope..There is happiness..there is love left for you. Don't give up.

Ty all for the support. It means a lot