you're divorced now right??? those are things he should've put in his div papers.....sorry hun,,,,i sold them.

ummm. yeah. I dont think he has a leg to stand on really but I let my ex keep most everything....didnt want any ties so I didnt keep any of that stuff but they do not have to be returned to him. They were given to you. They belong to you.

He can't be serious. He's just too much. I used to get paranoid from my ex and his threats about this and that, I got to the point when I started thinking, says who? I had to let it roll off my back or I'd be a basket case today. I'd say, yeah exactly where is that written that property you gave to me as a gift even is now yours?

Hi Loving: Your ex believes he is dealing with a very weak woman that will cave to his demands. Show him you are not that woman.

First, you are divorced and the proceedings are OVER. He doesn't get back any of it and that's final AND DON'T YOU DARE GIVE ANY OF IT BACK TO HIM.. So you lawyer is absolutely correct that you don't return any items.

It is probably time to let this a** know that he's dealing with a tougher woman now. I would send him an e-mail telling him that the divorce is over, settlement was made, he gets nothing else, and you want no contact with him (hoping you don't kids together).

Then block him from your phone, your computer and don't dare take calls from him, or texts, or anything. He gets nothing and if he shows up at your door, don't open the door and don't speak to him through the door. Teach him that you are no longer doing things his way.

Good luck and many hugs.

You pay for a lawyer, it makes sense if he says not to give the things back, you should NOT give them back.
Block and ignore the ex from everything if you want peace. No contact is the way to go.

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If you have children, scan emails for children related messages. Create a folder. Anything not related to children, put in this folder. Then ignore. Do not respond. He will eventually get tired of it and give up.

Do not bother responding to them at all, he is trying to control you...

They are yours if they weren't included in divorce settlement

Hmm. I'd give 'em away.

How petty is that, he's asking for all the stuff he gave you back?

As was explained to me, anything that was given to you in promise of marriage is yours to keep once you've actually been married. Had you broken up before the marriage, he would be entitled to the engagement ring back. But since you were married, you are legally entitled to keep anything ever given you. He knows this or he would have asked for them in the divorce. Ignore him.

Thanks for all your responses. I informed him that he's not getting the items back.

I have decided to sell the rings and block his emails etc.

Hope I will get enough money from selling the rings for a much needed vacation.

Divorced women sometimes either sell the jewelry or either have the stones reset into other settings they like. They are yours to do with as you please.

Hmmm... that kind of stuff I was perfectly willy to give up. if I could keep the peace by being the better person I did it.

If you are moving on, do you still need these items? i would find them a bad reminder of him, personally.

I bought my wife very expensive gifts over the course of our marriage, my question is why would I want it back? Listen to your gut and not your lawyer(cost too much) and not give anything back.

I like the idea of selling them and taking a nice vacation. Go for it!

Married or not, the items were given to you- not loaned. In my opinion, that should be the end of any discussion with the ex.