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Repeating the same thing night after night.

Dru1980
Dru1980

My wife moved out two weeks ago and I continue to repeat the same night over and over. Have a few beers, smoke a cigar and listen to sad music...feel like if I have a routine at least I can find some comfort in that.

sjs777
sjs777
inactivity may help in the short term, but action should be considered. with limited information its tough to offer any suggestion or insight
Dru1980
Dru1980
She has decided she wants a divorce....because she hasnt been happy for years. She moved in with her mom and I have just been taking it one day at a time. I am very active during the day. Running, yardwork, house chores and my job....but its the nights that get me.
Swimgrl
Swimgrl
Do u have kids? Nights are hard for me to..i think it is loneliness and the lack of having someone there that has been a part of your life for so long...its like a death. We all grieve differently. It's good to do something small for yourself every day but why sad music? Doesn't that cause more pain. I would suggest playing something that makes u smile.
Dru1980
Dru1980
Yes, we have two. 6 and 3. I think you're right about the music....I will consider that. Yes, we will have been married 8 years in September. Dating since 2008. How long were you married? We have been getting along okay....but its hard being at home....reminding me of everything we had....the pictures still on the wall and most of her things still here.
maybe2late
maybe2late
Careful with the booze. You don't want to pick up a new habit.

Try changing the channel. When I'm sad I turn on Van Halen. It is REALLY hard to be sad while listening to Van Halen. If you don't like 80's metal choose something else you like that isn't sad.

I love sad music too but I don't listen to it unless I"m happy. Depeche Mode and beer are only for when I'm happy.
live2ndin
live2ndin
What are some of your hobbies or activities that you like to do? Do you have any interest in reading? I know sometimes for me when things get tough or I am having a rough night I open the Bible and read and can usually find some comfort because it is really a book about life and all of the things that we will encounter throughout. Seeking and finding peace can be a difficult thing to do, especially when dealing with a big change in life, but if you are not seeking you often won't find it. I pray for peace for your soul.