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I know this I an up and down process but sometimes the reminders are really heart and gut wrenching.
This morning I saw on Facebook a picture that his daughter had posted and a mutual friend of our commented on. It was him with his 5 kids and their spouses/significant others taken last weekend. I couldn't help but feel envious that I wasn't there, too.
I've always been a single mom and it's not that my son and I aren't a family but it's different when it's just the two of us. I've always wanted a bigger family and a partner. I've had a few relationships over the years but the majority of the time it was just me and my son...partly because I was busy raising and supporting him (by myself...I never got child support or state aid) which sometimes meant multiple jobs. That didn't leave time for dating.
None of my previous relationships were like this one...I clearly don't choose men well lol. My last boyfriend was someone that I really was starting to think was going to truly be my last. I don't just miss him, I miss his kids, too, especially his youngest daughter. Seeing that picture was salt in the wound...kind of a reminder of what I can't have.
I don't mean to sound like I don't love my son...I do, more than life itself. I'm ridiculously proud of him...he's a great guy, has accomplished a lot. He struggles with ADHD (that would surprise most people because he's a really laid back, calm, nice guy who doesn't get mad) which makes school hard for him and he is succeeding at a very tough private college (classes there are worth 4 credits at most schools rather than then standard 3.) He was involved in sports from 1st grade through college (football captain & varsity starter for 3 years, two time state place winner in wrestling, played soccer, baseball and threw for the track team) and he has great friends. He's had the same girlfriend since they were freshman in college and they are planning to get engaged this year. When he graduated, he won an award and a separate scholarship for character...he's amazing. I don't mean to sound like he's not enough because he's definitely the best thing that's ever happened in my life. I was ok being alone before but after my ex, it's like there's really something missing now. I know it will take some time but reminders just suck.
This morning I saw on Facebook a picture that his daughter had posted and a mutual friend of our commented on. It was him with his 5 kids and their spouses/significant others taken last weekend. I couldn't help but feel envious that I wasn't there, too.
I've always been a single mom and it's not that my son and I aren't a family but it's different when it's just the two of us. I've always wanted a bigger family and a partner. I've had a few relationships over the years but the majority of the time it was just me and my son...partly because I was busy raising and supporting him (by myself...I never got child support or state aid) which sometimes meant multiple jobs. That didn't leave time for dating.
None of my previous relationships were like this one...I clearly don't choose men well lol. My last boyfriend was someone that I really was starting to think was going to truly be my last. I don't just miss him, I miss his kids, too, especially his youngest daughter. Seeing that picture was salt in the wound...kind of a reminder of what I can't have.
I don't mean to sound like I don't love my son...I do, more than life itself. I'm ridiculously proud of him...he's a great guy, has accomplished a lot. He struggles with ADHD (that would surprise most people because he's a really laid back, calm, nice guy who doesn't get mad) which makes school hard for him and he is succeeding at a very tough private college (classes there are worth 4 credits at most schools rather than then standard 3.) He was involved in sports from 1st grade through college (football captain & varsity starter for 3 years, two time state place winner in wrestling, played soccer, baseball and threw for the track team) and he has great friends. He's had the same girlfriend since they were freshman in college and they are planning to get engaged this year. When he graduated, he won an award and a separate scholarship for character...he's amazing. I don't mean to sound like he's not enough because he's definitely the best thing that's ever happened in my life. I was ok being alone before but after my ex, it's like there's really something missing now. I know it will take some time but reminders just suck.
Best wishes.
Seeing new photos of him or his fans or friends or new life on FB wrecks me.
Melissa, do not let yourself go there (advice I need to tell myself all the time).
It will just drag you backwards. I know this is hard, oh man, so hard.
Sending you a big hug.
Block him and anyone connected with him...it will help you heal much faster! Or delete Facebook altogether.
I just read part of my journal (my personal one) and read a lot of the past year entries, part of me still feels that horrible, sick feeling of wondering how things would ever work out, now I know, divorce. Part of me is so grateful to be on this side of the breakup vs the early on part (since Feb) Day to day, up and down, hang in there. Hugs!!!
Seeing the picture wasn't devastating ...a month ago it might have been. It was just sad but there are a lot of reminders for me this time of year due to some significant events. Its just something I need to deal with because life goes on. :)