"your" man should be honest, fair, and even tempered. i dont think this is "your man".

Yes, I have been going through a similar situation. One day he is calm and everything appears normal; he even sounds reasonable. The next day he goes back on everything he says and blames me for everything and does a serious 180. It is driving me up the wall, but after some building of boundaries I am learning how to listen and only respond to what I need to. Good luck.

Do you think you're dealing w/ bipolar or psychopathy? At any rate , yes I've lived through similar things with my dec. husband. But we only knew eachother 6 mos. before marrying. He pushed the envelope...Just ask yourself what you're willing to live with, because people usually keep the same tendencies, All you can do is gain the familiarity to know how to cope with them. Do you want to be with him and deal with these issues for the rest of your life? That's what you need to ask. He only can repent by God. Acts 2:38 Mark 16:16 Acts 22:16

Also beware of that 180 rule: they will accuse you of the very thing THEY are guilty of--- yes, frustrating.

That's exactly what happened today

So how do I cope?
What advice..
He has fallen out with all his friends..His family are not DNA he is adopted and his adopted dad has Bp also .. I knew he was not quite right from the start but thought he would snap out of it ..Just thought it was because of the adoption ..He is a whirlwind .. very manipulative tries to cause trouble everywhere he goes with everyone

He is. Not trust worthy pretends he has paid a bill for example and later I find out nothing has been paid found out my engagement ring was worth nothing and he told me that it was very expensive so I had to take care of it. He maxed the credit card and said he paid it.pretends he has purchased things big tv ect and nothing is delivered my phone went missing money ...The list goes on...Can anyone tell me what I am dealing with

No drugs that I have seen he smokes alot ..But just cigs ..But the stress lately I have started smoking again after 2yr

In alanon/Coda You learn you can not fix or
control anybody but yourself. Its a very hard
life lesson to learn. I thought we were Okay
And we were too for a very long time until we
weren't. Guess What i could not fix him or my
marriage only Me, HUGS

As others have already said, if you are dealing with an addict, you are up against a wall you cannot possibly climb over, until or unless he decides on his own that he has a problem and needs to do something about it. I've married and lived with addicts. It sounds like if he is an addict (and stealing for drug money is normal), he is deep in his addiction.

As to bi-polar, I have lived with and been involved with bi-polar people. If he is diagnosed that and is not taking his meds, then you will see big swings in his behavior and he will continue to make radical behavior mood swings. He will NEVER 'snap out of it' because it is a chemical malfunction in his brain. Without stabilizing meds, he will continue all the behaviors you are seeing.

This is so difficult to say, because you have invested so much into this relationship, but this is truly way over your head. I would strongly suggest you get some type of counseling to help you cope with and make a decision about this relationship before he destroys everything you own and have had. Much love and prayers to you, I have been where you are.

Christ!!! Yep I feel in so deep and scared of what's next
Been blamed again for arguments today he is soo ungrateful and manipulate I know in my heart I deserve better
He will. Not spend time as a family anymore he has.not taken me out in along time almost makes me feel like he is ashamed of being with me and he is pushing me to look for love elsewhere

By addict?.?
What do you mean..Drugs alcohol or this addiction to lies ?

He told me when we first got together he had problems with drinking but he did a detox
But I never smell alcohol... Doesn't act Dru k
Just smokes alot of cigs

I hope you are in therapy and attend CODA or alanon.

He does sound like a unrecovered addict with other MH
issues and he does sound like untreated bipolar. I am not
a therapist though.

Its your decision about your path and how long you want
to Live like this, there is help out there for you. He needs
To take care of his own stuff that is not your burden to carry
Its his alone, take care of you and your journey. HUGS

Had huge argument with him during the night ..He was acting like a possessed demo. Was bit freaky.i even said I was gonna go and stay in hotel.then his mood changes a d all nicey in my face don't want you to go.sort of admitted to having problems and has agreed to get tested ..Yet earlier he was again moody feeling sorry for himself and also I hear him talking to himself and I say what did you say ..Said nothing.. is he hearing ,'voicez'?

He was cooking few nights ago..And he asked me to come have a look ..So I did went over to kitchen and stood at hob and he looks at me ..And said come to have look ... I said yes you just asked me to..
Said NO DIDNT ...Made out was me hearing things?.??