Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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Swimgrl
Swimgrl

Hello everyone. It is nice to find this support group of people going through some of the sa.e things I am


 I am recently separated from husband of 12 years and have two boys. My husband has a gambling addiction and an alcohol problem. I am struggling daily not to beg him to come back although its something I don't really want, I think I believe the pain will go away if he only comes back....

mirandac
mirandac
Personally i would recommend going to alanon,
Therapy and joining a divorce care group.

Try To stay no contact as much as possible So
you can start to detach and gain some clarity
Into the situation, HUGS
Stephanie1977
Stephanie1977
The pain will not go away if he comes back. Things will only get worse. In times like these we need to depend on ourselves and not others to move forward in your healing. Therapy and support groups do help but you and only you can make the decision to move forward.
Dandelion
Dandelion
It's difficult to take something away, even if it's bad for you, without replacing it with something else. Hopefully you choose to replace him with something healthier that will heal your life like mirandac suggested.
maybe2late
maybe2late
Sadly it is possible to really love someone you shouldn't. It sounds like you know you really shouldn't love this guy anymore. I'm guessing you know that you deserve better.
Swimgrl
Swimgrl
Thanks for all the advice! I am starting to eat healthier and walking daily with girlfriends. I have made an appt for counseling as well. When I am Alone at night is when I miss just having another adult around to comfort me after a hard days work ...as I have a VERY stressful job and I pay all the bills and take care of my two boys by myself.
sjs777
sjs777
understand that begging him to come back won't cause him to address his addictions. in fact, it may well enforce a codependent situation

it truly is time for you to take care of you - you're not alone!
ThisTooShallPass74
ThisTooShallPass74
I feel your pain...not having that partner to talk to at night is the worst. That is the time I feel the loneliest. It's not always convenient to call someone to talk and it's just not the same anyways. Keep up the good things you're doing, they will help. Maybe try to find a new hobby that you can do at home in the evenings that can keep your mind occupied so the longings don't become too strong. Hang in there!