Hugs to you and Godspeed on your journey.

This online guy did not have any obligation to you. He probably did not enjoy himself as much either. It is sad that people take the cowardly way out without a word. I am not sorry this happened....he showed his true colors early and did you a favor. Breathe and perhaps, it's not time yet for you to be meeting anyone yet as you are still harboring feelings for your past.

Consider counseling if you have not done that yet. It helps for some and for others, it is just futile. You need to develop an important relationship with yourself before you can venture out. I wish you the best.

(((nix)))

thakyou guys,zxj your so right.i know i have to like myself before anyone else likes me.And yes i am having counciling but it finishes this week.xx

It's only since Thursday, but don't count on this guy...

You're ok on your own, too, remember that! Try to do something active for yourself to feel better, long walk outside, swiming...

hugs, many, to you!

I think as long as there is an stbx in the picture, you need to avoid dating until your divorce is done and you've healed.

I tried dating while separated and realized I needed to more healing.

I'm sorry you're hurting. Some people are just insensitive.

Hugs!!!

Nix - he was just plain rude! I'm sorry that you were disappointed and glad you are in counseling. I don't know why yours is ending this week, but you might think about extending it if you can to help you work through the painful issues.

Lynne

Phone him / thats cool .Nothing wrong with that. Be the instigator.Tag your it. lol

thankyou for all your advice.my counciler says that i can always have top up sessions if i need them.and i know i really dont want to be with someone who shows me no intrest,ive got such low self esteem i think some of you are right about not being ready to date.

big hugs Nix. And low self esteem and dating DO NOT MIX!! Some men do what this one did, but others hang around and use your low self esteem against you. Deep breath, and get out there and do things to make you feel good!!!


Healing hugs!

Sorry that happened, nix. I can see why you would think the stbx looked better, after that happened, but don't give up and go back to something bad. hugs to you.

Utah makes a very good point. Be glad he didn't take advantage of your vulnerability. That would feel much worse. Take care of yourself right now.

It's hard sometimes.

If you need to know I think it is ok to call and ask what's up. Just be ready to hear a story you don't want to hear.
Sir Francis Bacon once said Knowledge is Power.

HUG HUG.....well, I've never internet dated but I have a sister who did quite a bit and her stories are much like yours. This one time this guy came to pick her up and she said, "Wait, I need to leave a note on the door for my son" and she got out of the car to do so..and HE DROVE AWAY!!!!"...before the date?????...Some people manners are a little...uh, missing?
Well, you don't really want those kinds of guys anyway, right? But I know, your feelings are hurt, because you deserve to be treated better...but the way he treated YOU says a lot more about HIS character--than it does about YOURS......remember that when other peoples rude behaviors hurts your feelings. ..It's THEM.
I can't vouch that your a fabulous catch, but NO ONE deserves to be treated rudely.

I agree that working on your self esteem first is very important. First for your own benefit of course. Also because a positive attitude increases the chances of a better connection with someone nice... Hugs, nix!