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I have an ex who's the father of my children.
I really don't know how to start there's so much.
He wasn't around for 7 years now he's back. I thought I was over him.
at first I was fine but he started flirting with me. Then one day he kisses me and we had sex. But later he said he didn't want to hurt me and mess every thing up with my family (they hate him) and we could just be friends with benefits. at first I was fine or thought I was.
For a long time I was ok. But I've been spending almost every day with him. Now I feel attached again. But He's told me that we can't be together which there are so many reasons and complications that I know it's true we really can't. Still he's getting a girlfriend in a month she's moving in with him. He says once she moves in he can't spend time with me anymore.
This is really killing me inside. I'm so jealous and I can't handle it. I'm trying to accept it but I just can't. I'm so deeply in love with him and I just want us to be together. He said he can't stay single just for me.
I knew this day would come but it's still shocking me and killing me. I cry all the time. I have no one I can talk to since it's a huge secret from every one that I'm still in love with him. I don't know what to do. I can't cut him off completely because the kids need him. And I know that if he goes away again it will just hurt the kids. But I really wish I never had to see him again. When he was gone I was fine. And I'd rather not know anything then knowing he has a girlfriend and that we can't be together. Ignorance is bliss and he stole my bliss.
he's really been the only man I ever loved. I've tried dating but I never develop feelings for other men. Even more so when he's around and I'm still carrying the torch.
I don't know what to do. I'm becoming suicidal over this. I'm in so much pain that I would do anything to make it stop.
I know I can't die though because I have too much responsibility. I know how much it would hurt the kids. And I know how much they need me. But I still think about it all the time.
I'm also so worn out from pretending to be strong when every one else is around but on the inside I'm dieing.
I really don't know how to start there's so much.
He wasn't around for 7 years now he's back. I thought I was over him.
at first I was fine but he started flirting with me. Then one day he kisses me and we had sex. But later he said he didn't want to hurt me and mess every thing up with my family (they hate him) and we could just be friends with benefits. at first I was fine or thought I was.
For a long time I was ok. But I've been spending almost every day with him. Now I feel attached again. But He's told me that we can't be together which there are so many reasons and complications that I know it's true we really can't. Still he's getting a girlfriend in a month she's moving in with him. He says once she moves in he can't spend time with me anymore.
This is really killing me inside. I'm so jealous and I can't handle it. I'm trying to accept it but I just can't. I'm so deeply in love with him and I just want us to be together. He said he can't stay single just for me.
I knew this day would come but it's still shocking me and killing me. I cry all the time. I have no one I can talk to since it's a huge secret from every one that I'm still in love with him. I don't know what to do. I can't cut him off completely because the kids need him. And I know that if he goes away again it will just hurt the kids. But I really wish I never had to see him again. When he was gone I was fine. And I'd rather not know anything then knowing he has a girlfriend and that we can't be together. Ignorance is bliss and he stole my bliss.
he's really been the only man I ever loved. I've tried dating but I never develop feelings for other men. Even more so when he's around and I'm still carrying the torch.
I don't know what to do. I'm becoming suicidal over this. I'm in so much pain that I would do anything to make it stop.
I know I can't die though because I have too much responsibility. I know how much it would hurt the kids. And I know how much they need me. But I still think about it all the time.
I'm also so worn out from pretending to be strong when every one else is around but on the inside I'm dieing.
So, you two can't be together b/c of your family? He's "getting a g/f in a month"? Huh?
He isn't worth ending your life over. No one is. And yes, your kids DO need their mom. Its a shame he came circling back without the intention of anything more than what this has become. And now he's basically leaving you to pick up the pieces again.
The smartest thing you can do for your own mental well-being is to stop with the emotional and sexual involvement with him. Its only going to hurt that much worse if you allow it to continue.
If you were able to get over him before, as much as you did? You will be able to do it again. You will.
I can handle friends with benefits with any one else but him. I've done it before. It's just that I already have feelings for him so that makes it harder.
you're right I should stop contact with him as much as possible but I can't help myself. I just want to enjoy these last few days I have with him. Then I guess I'll brace myself for the big crash and burn.