Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Ok, I do want a divorce but haven't really started the process yet. I posted a few weeks ago about my situation. I worry about so many things...one of them our house. I have been detaching myself from our home emotionally and started looking at homes in the area. I have decided to stop a potential fight over the house, I would let my husband keep the house and buy me out. I would then look for an affordable home on my own. My grown son and his girlfriend would continute to stay in this house if my husband said it was ok, or they would have to move out and find their own place. Sooo... can I look for a house and buy before a divorce (though I am sure I would not even qualify while still having my name on this mortgage?) I am wondering how the process works? So would I have to wait for my husbamd to refinance this house in his own name before getting my own house? Then how do we live? Still together in this house until I find something? I have so many questions and I probably need to get them answered by an attorney which I haven't even started. It's all so scary and I worry about money so much. I also worry that my husband will make it difficult and drawn out. I guess any advice and input from people that are going through it or gone through it would help. I have not minor children and the only real assets are our house and investments and my pension. I plan on scheduling a lawyer consultation this week sometime....any specific questions I should ask him? Thanks.
Little different as far as the financial setup.
Find a good lawyer that has worked well
With others. Some people get bad ones
And do not get what they deserved financially.
My ex wanted to save on lawyers and do
It ourselves. I did not trust him so i did not
Go that route. Some people can use a
Mediator/ lawyer mix if both people are
Mature adults.
We each retained our Own lawyer. He filed
against me within a week of Asking for a
divorce and moving out. He wanted me to
Move out, I said no and no dating you are a
married man. He left in a big self righteous
Huff to his mothers house. We have a business
On the same property. I stayed with the house
Until the decree was signed.
It all boils down to the financials and the child
Care during divorce. Its likened to dismantling
of a corporation.
It is a brutally tough time emotionally, i was
Very glad to have a good attorney watching
out for me and she had my back. I was not
Thinking clearly, i am still not really too swift
Financially. These are times the emotional
Self and grieving are running the show much
Like being a widow. HUGS
The one looking to end it. Its still not an easy
Process. Keep talking to your therapist for some
Guidance. I was in therapy and alanon for two
Years before we separated then divorced. It
Helped me tremendously. I was no longer a
Doormat. HUGS
To a year before making any life changing decisions.
The more you change and grow things could get
Better and/or you get stronger On the inside to deal
with the fallout.
My ex got nasty For the last 12 years we were together
so i get you. He started with that passive aggresive BS
and it kept Getting worse not better. I should have left
then when It started it tore me to shreds on the inside.
The man i Loved and valued was now my enemy. HUGS
Out going to support groups, i go to alanon,
Divorce care, therapy and now attend church.
This stuff is not easy and we need help. HUGS