Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
He cheated over 3 year ago. I did all I could to fix our marriage but my breakdowns were too much and pushed him away. He moved out 7 months ago but comes home to help give our cat IV fluids when my parents can't. Ironically until a fight last weekend he called every morning and night and texted a few times a day.
I ask him weekly what his plan is and his response is always, "I don't know." His lease is up May 30 so I asked him last week what his plan is and he said he's staying through July. It made me mad that he didn't share this with me on his own. As crappy as this moment made me feel I think it was the moment where I realized it's over and I need to move on. He doesn't respect me. For some reason that moment (out of the 9 million others) was finally the one that pushed me over the edge. I'm done. As much as it hurts and as much as I've fought to save the marriage, I finally realize I can't do any more. I have to move on.
He has never said the words "I want a divorce". He'll say he'll come get his stuff or he'll bring paperwork for me to take to a mediator but when I ask him to say the words "I want a divorce" (or anything to help me understand what's happening) he won't say it.
My counselor said he needs be the one to handle the paperwork since he's the one who seems to want a divorce. He's not doing anything so I guess I have to call a mediator and move forward with a divorce.
What would you do? What do you think of this? I feel like it's incredibly disrespectful that he isn't man enough to say he wants a divorce and to file. He got upset when I told him my counselor said he should be the one to do it. He questioned why not me?
It's just tough. He's showing his true colors. I don't know what happened to the man I married but this cheating, spineless weenie took over and now I'm left alone. This is so hard and I just need support. Thanks.
I ask him weekly what his plan is and his response is always, "I don't know." His lease is up May 30 so I asked him last week what his plan is and he said he's staying through July. It made me mad that he didn't share this with me on his own. As crappy as this moment made me feel I think it was the moment where I realized it's over and I need to move on. He doesn't respect me. For some reason that moment (out of the 9 million others) was finally the one that pushed me over the edge. I'm done. As much as it hurts and as much as I've fought to save the marriage, I finally realize I can't do any more. I have to move on.
He has never said the words "I want a divorce". He'll say he'll come get his stuff or he'll bring paperwork for me to take to a mediator but when I ask him to say the words "I want a divorce" (or anything to help me understand what's happening) he won't say it.
My counselor said he needs be the one to handle the paperwork since he's the one who seems to want a divorce. He's not doing anything so I guess I have to call a mediator and move forward with a divorce.
What would you do? What do you think of this? I feel like it's incredibly disrespectful that he isn't man enough to say he wants a divorce and to file. He got upset when I told him my counselor said he should be the one to do it. He questioned why not me?
It's just tough. He's showing his true colors. I don't know what happened to the man I married but this cheating, spineless weenie took over and now I'm left alone. This is so hard and I just need support. Thanks.
Find a lawyer that has a decent reputation (Avvo.com was helpful to me) and you can talk to like a human, and get him/her to draw you up as favorable conditions for yourself as the lawyer says is plausible. Look for somebody who specializes in mediation. Your husband probably won't even put any thought into what happens in a divorce until he gets paperwork, and if you're lucky, maybe he's too lazy to even fight your terms. Maybe he signs, and you move on with your life...or maybe reality sinks in when he sees the paperwork, and he starts talking. Wish you luck.