That's going to happen. The sky can be blueblueblue and it will remind me of him. Just have to flow through it...and let it pass. When you have been with someone for awhile, there is much in this big world that will remind you of them. Stay steady...breathe...and carry on...

I can relate......the only time I have reacted is dinner time. Most of the time it is just a reaction to now being alone instead of being alone without him. He played with my mind so much I really despise him and really could care less about him. Nothing really reminds me of him. It is really an out of sight out of mind thing for me. but feeling alone and vulnerable......that is there and missing company...that is there. Maybe I'm still in the angry phase but for now I don't really see any redeemable value in him. He was a good cook?

I go though the saem thing when I'm out and about....I get it so bad that I have anxiety attach and have to remove my self from the situation. it's hard going shopping and going places we as a family went and all I remember is the good times that we spent messing around and having fun....I miss my wife dearly on all levels.

I can't even listen to any music and I haven't done for about a month now it just makes me dipressed even more

It took a while before I could go to the coast or any of the places we used to photograph without bursting hysterically into tears. It's gotten much better. I miss the good times we had but anymore the events of the past few months has overshadowed that. I don't mind being alone and I really don't feel lonely. I guess that's good.

KAW - I think there is a difference between being alone and lonely. I agree with you.

I couldn't go in a grocery store for these 3 months without bursting into tears and running to my car to sob hysterically

I am getting a tiny bit better...though couldn't stay in Home Depot yesterday....triggering me

Antidepressants and time.....and my anger phase are reducing the amount of crying I am doing

full of so much anger and pain

Better than the constant despair

I hear ya and can relate. Almost every weekend we would load up the truck with the dogs and a cooler-o-goodies and head for a drive. We always stopped for drinks and snacks. When we were no longer together, when I would stop by that convenient store to get gas and snacks, I was always reminded of our weekends heading out. The first few times, I caught myself sitting int he truck waiting for her to come out and realized, she wasn't there. That was a trip. But I get it. It happens and can pull at your heart strings for sure. All you can do is take care of yourself when these moments come and if that means going to your car and breaking down, you have to do that. Many of us have done that.

just hang in there as soon, those moments will start to be minimal and you start looking at those couples as a hope for a future with someone and not as a painful memory of what was.

Isn't it ironic how a grocery store of all things can trigger such emotions. I had serious panic attacks in the grocery store for the first 3 months. Ironically airports are overwhelming for me too!
Stay strong and chin up!

that happens with me when I see a TV show or see a commercial about a place we used to go to.......and even food I prepare for my friend / roommate for dinner.

I hope that this gets better over time. I really do....it is so hard.

I was cured of that trigger at a very young age. You are seeing what's being presented, you have no idea what the dynamic is behind closed doors. I'm certain it's completely different. Not to be a nay-sayer about what looks to be healthy relationships, but you don't really know.

I'd more view that as a goal, not something you had, and lost.

I have a slightly different take on this subject. When I go places where I am triggered by a memory of us being there together, I actually remember how difficult he was, or how uncomfortable he made all of us, or how much we didn't really get to enjoy what we were doing because of him. So now when I go to those places, I enjoy myself a lot more because he's not there messing it up.

I haven't experienced much of that yet. Probably because for the last year we haven't really done anything together. My main trigger so far is when I stumble across pictures of us together during happier times. That's when I tend to break down. Anyone else?

That reminds me of a break up I had yrs ago with my kids father, it was close to valenties day so I took the kids alone to the lake , and everywhere I looked ,there was couples except me , I rember to this day feeling terrible,well ofcoarse it was valentines day silly me lol... Life is funny yrs later I married someone else on valentines day how about that :) Now Im divorced from that someone also lol, but I also can look back at that and say I'm glad were divorced now but going thru that divorce at the time felt like the end of the world , life is funny at times give it time,time heals.... hugs hang in there .

I can do the outside thing. It is inside the house that makes me crazy. When the kids are in school and I am alone. That's when it hurts and I feel so lonely. Lately I have just gotten ready and gone on some long errand to stay away. But since I will have to get a job now that may not be such a problem;)