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It seems like a lot of people here get very upset about "being alone". As one who doesn't mind being alone, I've thought a lot about that subject. When my ex decided it was over, I did not worry about being alone because I was never more alone then when we were married. I mourned the loss of my entire family structure being changed forever.
These are my pros for being alone:
1. I live my life on my own clock....not his first, then mine.
2. I eat what I want, when I want, how I want.
3. I'm not forced to exist in a filthy bathroom/house any longer.
4. Don't have to listen to sports/sport shows 24/7.
5. Don't have to listen to how much smarter he is than everyone else, including me.
6. Don't have to put up with his alcohol/pot addictions.
7. Don't have to worry about his violent outbursts with me or the kids.
8. Don't have to worry about having no food, lights, oil, etc
9. Don't have to sleep on 1/4 of a queen size bed so I didn't disturb him which caused many violent episodes. (Snoring/farting gone too)
10.Don't have to put up with a garage full of garbage because he was too lazy to walk it to the curb to be picked up.
11. Have a maintenance man that promptly repairs everything.
12. Don't have to explain why his 3 minutes of jumping on top of me didn't do a thing FOR ME!
These are my cons for being alone:
Ya! There aren't any.......Maybe you could add some of yours!
These are my pros for being alone:
1. I live my life on my own clock....not his first, then mine.
2. I eat what I want, when I want, how I want.
3. I'm not forced to exist in a filthy bathroom/house any longer.
4. Don't have to listen to sports/sport shows 24/7.
5. Don't have to listen to how much smarter he is than everyone else, including me.
6. Don't have to put up with his alcohol/pot addictions.
7. Don't have to worry about his violent outbursts with me or the kids.
8. Don't have to worry about having no food, lights, oil, etc
9. Don't have to sleep on 1/4 of a queen size bed so I didn't disturb him which caused many violent episodes. (Snoring/farting gone too)
10.Don't have to put up with a garage full of garbage because he was too lazy to walk it to the curb to be picked up.
11. Have a maintenance man that promptly repairs everything.
12. Don't have to explain why his 3 minutes of jumping on top of me didn't do a thing FOR ME!
These are my cons for being alone:
Ya! There aren't any.......Maybe you could add some of yours!
as for being alone, i don't see it as being alone. i see it as missing just that one person, the spouse. every other loved one is still present.
Thanx for the pros!! :)
be free of drama, trauma, anxiety, worry, confusion, instability, deceit, manipulation
it's a blessing to be healthier and stronger and back to normal
it's a blessing I value more than I can say
priceless
I'm so thankful
be free of drama, trauma, anxiety, worry, confusion, instability, deceit, manipulation
it's a blessing to be healthier and stronger and back to normal
it's a blessing I value more than I can say
priceless
I'm so thankful
I can finally be me.
I actually have money in the bank and I don't have to beg for it.
I don't have to listen to a bunch of lies and spend days, weeks, months, and years trying to figure it out.
I don't have to worry about when he comes home from work what kind of mood he will be in.
I don't have to listen to him blaming me for his poor decisions and actions.
I don't have to pay for his poor decisions and actions.
I live in a completed home (he always ripped up our house with construction, but never finished it. I left him 8 years ago and the downstaires bathroom and laundry room had been ripped apart for remodeling 2 years prior to that......it still ain't done according to my daughter).
I am free, free, great God in heaven, I am free at last!!!!!
"Oh my gods, I don't want to die alone!"
phase. Thank goodness that has ended. I'm content by myself most of the time. I also have a list of things I don't have to deal with.
At some point, I would like to find someone else to be with, but would rather 'die alone" than to settle for a severely damaged person again.