my wife of 13 yrs recently started having an affair for 3 wks that i know of, so i packed up and left. she had another one about 3 yrs ago i forgave her but never really forgot. we have been freinds since childhood. ive been riding this roller coaster of emotions up and down really down i keep thinking i left too quick didnt really discuss any thing .ive tried calling txting her she wouldnt respond for first wk . i heard from reliable sources shes out alot w this new guy. she never wanted to go out w me i tried. now my other problem she dosnt work she has disability that comes and goes apparantly with who her company is. she has no money and she needs to sell her old car she has new one.the old car needs major work i previously started doing before .two days ago thats all shes asking about is money and fix car i told her i would still fix car. today i brought it in garage my emotions brought me way down. i feel like she is still using me and im letting her.should i be a man of my word and fix it or keep my dignity self empowerment and not touch it.all through marriage i always gave in and did things her way. she said one of our problems was i tried to have control over her, i dont beleive i did. my heart says fix it maybe it will make a differance and she will realize all i did for her. my brain says screw her shes still using you look at the pain shes putting you through it dosnt seem to bother her at all. she dosnt want to talk about us at all, i tried she hangs up. i dont know what is right anymore.