Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been separated from my husband for ten months and no where near over it. I love him very much and I'm no where near over him...over the course of separation he's been in and out of relationships or whatever you want to call them...and recently he went to jail, I waited three weeks to reach out to him. We divorced officially in April, but there is for sure still a strong connection between the two of us. I don't know if we will get back together, I don't know if he talks to other females or not...I'm almost scared to find out bc I know it'll hurt me. We spent today talking a lot about our relationship and where we went wrong kind of. I'm not sure how to feel...what to think
..I went back looking for answers.... Somehow, I need to take control of this situation...and he seems to have the whole thing figure out...I'm so confused.
1. He left 10 months ago and since has had multiple relationships or connections with other women
2. He did something that resulted in him going to jail.
3. Your divorce occurred in April.
4. You're concerned about being emotionally hurt by the potential of his continued bad behavior.
5. You've had contact with him and discussed the shortcomings of your relationship
So ...... let me spell it out. You need to be honest with yourself. He is toxic and why do you want to continue to hurt yourself by being with him, thinking about your relationship with him, missing him, thinking there is something positive about being with this man. He seems confused, immature, non-respectful. What you want is a man who can treat you right and respect you. A man who is mature and knows the difference between right and wrong. Someone who you admire and respect. Someone who brings joy to your heart when you think about him and someone you always respect because he is a good man and exhibits those traits through his actions with you and others. Pull yourself out of the rabbit hole, do yourself a favor and let him go. Start a new life, fresh and solid without him. Move forward not backward. We only have this one life on earth don't choose to be with someone who isn't a rock star ! Take some time for yourself. Be brave and do hard things. Embrace and love yourself. Be kind to yourself and forgiving. Recognize your future is bright and that you are in transition to a better place. Stay positive, stay focused ... the road in front of you will smooth out and become a new highway to happiness. Believe in yourself and let go of him.