Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Most days I just wish I could reach inside of my brain and delete the part of me that ever knew this guy, make my brain like it was before he even existed to me.
I was introduced to him by a mutual friend, after many years of not even wanting a relationship. I finally thought I was ready, and wanted one, didn't need one.
We met and got along great. Had fun every time we were together, no arguments, no harsh words ever, Always felt there was good communication, and I felt like I was watching love slowly blossom, and feeling like I didn't have to push anything, it was just happening.
Then I made the mistake of going away on vacation for 9 days,
There was no communication from this man the entire time I was gone.
The morning after I returned, I got a text message from him saying he is back with someone from his past - the "love of his life" and moving forward.
In fact, he has moved in with her already!!!!
I am so pissed off at the whole thing, I don't know what to feel.
And he knows I suffer from depression and yet still did this to me. All I can think is how much I hate her and how much I hate him and how I want their miserable lives to fall apart!!!!!!
I was introduced to him by a mutual friend, after many years of not even wanting a relationship. I finally thought I was ready, and wanted one, didn't need one.
We met and got along great. Had fun every time we were together, no arguments, no harsh words ever, Always felt there was good communication, and I felt like I was watching love slowly blossom, and feeling like I didn't have to push anything, it was just happening.
Then I made the mistake of going away on vacation for 9 days,
There was no communication from this man the entire time I was gone.
The morning after I returned, I got a text message from him saying he is back with someone from his past - the "love of his life" and moving forward.
In fact, he has moved in with her already!!!!
I am so pissed off at the whole thing, I don't know what to feel.
And he knows I suffer from depression and yet still did this to me. All I can think is how much I hate her and how much I hate him and how I want their miserable lives to fall apart!!!!!!
If a fella can bail when you've only been apart for 9 days, he is not worth it. You lucked out doll.
Hate them all you want for a while, but soon change the focus on you. YOU are important, THEY are not.
Big hugs,
Lynne
In the long run, you're better off knowing now versus finding out later. I know it is painful, but good riddance to him.
It only happened around Thanksgiving. That holiday was ruined, and I can't say Christmas was much better.
But yeah, they do "deserve" each other.
While I'm sure there was communication... I suspect that neither of you had "complete" communication with each other. There were probably several factors involved.
Just let it go. You obviously were not meant to be. And, he is with someone he loves... Be happy for him.
What is scary is that you can develop "hate" over this... I suggest that you take some time to reflect... Bernie nailed it. Hate is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.