I title this posting because that the best analogy I could think of. For those of us that have children with our ex's and who have been devastated but the collapses of their marriage dealing with your ex is like picking at the emotional scab. I had a dialog that got, "heated" exchange with my ex and all of a sudden that wound is opened up and the emotional blood rush out like a river angered by a spring thaw.

I found the whole thing completely draining emotionally and physically, and all the memory come flooding back.......it's exhausting. I find insult to injury when you are the one that was kicked to the curb, living out of a bag for the past 18 months, missing my daughter's first day of school, missing my son's hit his first home run. I was made to feel like I was the one that had an ex martial affair. And the entire time my ex continues to say ...."let's stay friend".....No I will treat you with respect and civility because you are the mother of my children that's it no a oz more or less.

And just when you stop thinking about them, dreaming every night about them, .....just when you stop obsessing, you get the call, the email, the text and then you see them and that scab gets peeled back .......I'm feel emotionally anemic this evening drained of all that pumps through me.

How is it fair that night after night we sit here, quietly weeping over our lost and the one person you just wish you didn't have to communicate with will be in our life for the rest of our lives? ....a constant reminder of our loss.