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julchr 04/04/2011

My boyfriend and I got into a heated arguement regarding my AOL password.

I have little sticky notes all over the back of my desk with passwords for Visa, utilities, cell phone, etc. But, without my AOL password, they are useless.

I was married for 22 yrs and never shared my password with my ex.

He told me that because I won't let him know, I don't trust him. I trust him more than I did my ex (I've known him for 26 yrs).

Am I asking too much to keep some privacy in my life?

deleted_user 04/04/2011

It depends. Do you handle your money you make and he does his? It does look like you dont trust him.

deleted_user 04/04/2011

Why dont you want him to know?

julchr 04/04/2011

Our money is totally separate.

Usually, I'm always on line, so it has never been a problem. I will look at bank statements, pay bills, check e-mails and Facebook with him sitting with me, and it doesn't bother me.

I think part of what set me off was him checking out my call log when I was out of the room.

He has major trust issues. He's even gone as far as following me when I met a friend for dinner.

All I ask for is some personal space.

deleted_user 04/04/2011

If money is separate then I can understand why he dont have your password. I hope the best for you but things like this can cause many problems. I dont know for sure but when one person has trust issues with the other they are doing something wrong.

ChiTownBear 04/05/2011

I believe a lil privacy is needed for an individual even though they are married. But passwords and things of that nature really don't mean much to me. I never asked my ex for her information. I tried to show respect and trust by not asking.

If he insists on getting your passwords, then I would be more concerned with his trust issues and/or what may appear to be a controlling side of him.

deleted_user 04/09/2011

why do you have any of your passwords out if you cant access them without your AOL password anyway? if you dont want him to see any part of it, dont leave it out in the open.

no- i dont think its too much to ask for privacy. my exhusband had all my passwords and i had his. we didnt have anything to hide. until i saw on the phone bill he was talking to some other woman. then he locked me out of everything.

not sure the best way to handle your situation. trust is a huge thing for me- when i get into a relationship with someone thats it- i dont feel i have anything to hide.

julchr 04/10/2011

My passwords have been on the back of my desk, forever. My ex didn't agree with me paying bills online and doing paperless statements, so I had them there so he could access the accounts. I used to use the same login's and passwords, but with stricter security, I forget, so the sticky notes.

My banking info isn't posted.

I trust my boyfriend, he hates the computer, but likes to track where I visit.

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