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Samuel2891
Samuel2891

Ugh the pain. The thoughts the unkown is all so real. Knowing my wife is haveibg an affair on me know is killing me i see my kids and it takes the pain away cuz i have to make sure there ok. There so small and fragile. I miss them all so much i only see them on weekends cuz my job. I miss my wife even tho she def going threw alot and her body is showing it. I never thought my wife would do this to me.. i know i need to pick up and move on she said she doesnt love me anymore whats so ever and i have caused her to not love me.. i dont understand that it runs threw my mind constintly over and over again. I want the pain gone.. ahe said she will be filing for the divorce ahe hates me... it weird tho cuz when i pick and drop off the kids ahe looks at me like why are u leaving but as soon as im gone she a tottally diffrent person towards me.. she is mean and rude. I know she is in aome sort of fog with this new guy and ahe not thinking atraigh what so ever.. i wish there was a way to get her to see what she is doing but there not so i have to be some what mean and stand up for my self to her and cut off everything to her. Just for the kids now.. i know she is mad about that what makes ger say she going to divorce me.. she also has to see she cant drag me along either.. she doesnt tho. Im the bad guy for everything and i have to live in the pain while she live in fantasy land with the new guy.. bunch of bs

Aronia
Aronia
I m so sorry you are going through this. Hugs
FamilyGuy
FamilyGuy
Similat situation. I almost killed myself last night over it and was able to stop. The pain, the agony, the night terrors, cant say it will get better. I can block and copy other poeple who tell me ot will but i dont mean it. The worst nightmare he's waking up reliving all this pain in your sleep and then you come to and realize it's not a nightmare it's your life that's the nightmare. Im not feeling thr vibe of collectove strength today, but of empathetic weakness. I held on and didnt give into the end it voices and they were shouting at me. I just have tl keep living and hope those "it gets better" people are right. Even though most people are wrong about most things. I have to hope this an exception.
ripped_my_heartout
ripped_my_heartout
Same here. She had multiple affairs yet I'm the bad guy and she hates me. Why does she hate me? All I did was find out she was cheating. Like I wrecked her good thing. Nobody deserves this.
Samuel2891
Samuel2891
My wife hates me ass well she is rude all the time towards me. She wants me to pay her way f that so she can suck a d
lookingup1
lookingup1
Know the painful feelings. I know for a fact there has been several emotional affairs with my STBX but as I am in the middle of this- I am wondering how you found out for certain of the physical affairs. With very young children I have turned my head just to survive with an infant but now am ready to know for sure if there has been a physical affair or so. If you are willing to share..
Samuel2891
Samuel2891
well my daughter says he always come to house and sleep in mommy and daddys bed... my kids telm me they sleep in there own room now that. My wife kicked me out with order of protection.. i have aeen then togther i have caught her txting in and talking fod hours. She thinks she is kewl and sligh but she not.. she caught now denys it alk the time but we alk know who is at fault. Now that she has no job and i refuse to pay that rent for her. Shd hates me o im sorry im getting in the way of your affair..
EveryWomanJ2911
EveryWomanJ2911
Samuel2891~Man that is really rough! Do you have someone to talk to in person like an encouraging friend, family member, counselor, or pastor? You would really benefit from a good support system. A local community support group as well as this one would be encouraging too. It sounds like a good idea for you right now would be to take care of yourself emotionally, physically, and spiritually so that you can care for your children well. If things can be mended with your spouse, you can deal with that as the time comes. For now though, a good strong support system is vital so that you can survive the every day and really be there for your kiddos. I'm praying for you about this situation and I hope you are encouraged here knowing that you are not alone and that there is always hope. Blessings to you friend. Things won't always be this way.