Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi. I'm new here. The whole time I have been with my bf we have always struggled to stay together. He would do something to break my trust and I would break it off but always come back. During the last break up I found out he contacted his ex to try to get back togather with him. Previously he had said this person was he old boss. While talking to him my ex was trying to convince him to stay. We were working together and lived where we worked. I gave in again and took him back. Then I suddenly was able to find my dad and decided to move closer to him to provide caregiving for him and just to get to know him. Boss freaked out and forced us to leave after we gave two weeks notice. Once I found out about the ex I broke off with him for good. Now I'm living in a car that isn't running well and still haven't firgured out a living situation near my dad.
I really only had my bf. No family or friends. Not sure even if my dad and i will be able to reconnect.
Just really need some support from somewhere right now.
Thanks
Thanks for welcoming to the site.
First make sure that you don't get lost in everything that is going on. Having to deal with end of a relationship while trying to establish one with your father is going to difficult. Either situation by itself would be emotionally draining dealing with both is going to make it even worse. Make sure that you take time for yourself.
Second it sounds like you have a lot of changes in your immediate future.. I would suggest that you set up a sort of game plan for accomplishing what you need to do. Write it down somewhere so when things start to get overwhelming you have something to fall back on. You can see your next step and refocus on that.
Lastly realize that you are going to have good days and bad. Probably more bad than good to start with but you'll realize that your good days will start to happen more often. After a while the good days will start to outnumber the bad. The reason I mention this is that when the bad happens it is easy to discourage and fall back in to old habits.