If it's been a year and you still feel love for him, you're the one keeping yourself in purgatory, as in you're doing this by torturing yourself with silly thoughts. God doesn't bring people into your life, you do, so you need to be accountable for why they leave, don't blame god or anyone else for that. If you don't have a job, you have plenty to do that requires your complete focus, but instead your distracting yourself with irrational thoughts.

Invest in yourself and become your own best friend. Sadness is something we do to ourselves. Woe and worry is a place we create in our minds. If life seems unfair to you, that's your mindset, it's not reality. Feeling sorry for oneself gets you nowhere. It's time to put your big girl pants on and start living in the present, instead of reminiscing over your past.

Wishing you well.

Thanks for your response. Part of me still loves him and cant seem to let go but my relationship was long distance for 2 years and when i gave up everything to move half way around the world to live with him he eventually said he didn't think he loved me and it was lust, before i knew it he booked my ticket and sent me back to my country. That's the hardest someone could get through plus he lied about not having someone else. Trust me when i say i understand we bring people into our lives totally taken responsibility for that. Thanks for the comforting messaging it really motivated me :)

I am so sorry you are feeling this way – and I do completely understand how difficult it can sometimes be to heal from a broken heart and the disappointment when things don’t turn out the way we had hoped they would. But do know, that you’re not alone – there are others who can help lift you up and “dust off your boots!” I have found that one of the best ways to heal from any pain is to find a way to serve others! Many communities sponsor volunteer outreach programs – this is a great way to get involved – the bonus is meeting new people! Is this something that might interest you? A place to begin your search may just be at your local church. I’m not certain in what part of the world you reside, but there are so many in need. You seem to be one who has a kind and compassionate heart and I believe many would benefit from those wonderful qualities.
I will be praying for you. Trust and believe that God has a plan for you!

This is such wonderful advice. Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me you are a great judge of character. I'm from the Caribbean and yes I have considered my options just with moderate depression some days are great and some can be a bit tough hence why I decided to write how I felt and join this ;-)

@Anna2612

check back as often as you need!

i wish you the best of luck even posting your story takes courage and remember
. before you find your soulmate you must discover your soul

Thanks exactly what I am doing at the moment

We're all human.
We Love & we get hurt. It's so hard for so many of us. That's what makes this group so great. Many of us don't always have the strength to move on so easily.
It takes time & we have to move at our own individual pace.
I'm still trying to move from my own situation, but I'm working on it.
But once I leave I'll be just like you! It will take me time to process it.
It's always hard.
Keep your head up and try to keep busy ;-)

I wish you the best of luck through your process. It is a very hard process indeed and this group has so many amazing people with inspiring stories it really guides me. All the best to you :-)