No offense but I thought you were suppose to show him unconditional love and pray for him instead of breaking up with him..this is the bad advice you give others in failing relationships..but you decide to pull the trigger on your own. That's called hypocritical but I'm sure after seeing your screen name you would disagree

I was very uncomfortable (even to the controlling point) about female friends. However, I wanted to have my male friends. I finally took the modeled behavior of another couple who was happily married and decided that NO opposite sex friends that were not mutual was my boundary. No marriage needs to find emotional comfort in the opposite sex. It's just psychology and there are a ton of support websites behind this. It makes total sense. Your female partner is who you should confide in. If they can't be a "mutual" friend-thats a red flag in an of itself.

Nothing wrong with it. If you feel threatened by it, and he cares he will eliminate the threat.

I don't think there's a "cookie cutter" response for a question like this. I think that each relationship knows it's limits, it's strengths and it's weaknesses. Where I agree that your partner should be your best friend and your insight as to how the other side thinks, sometimes our emotional ties can cloud or influence how we may approach certain situations. I am not comfortable with the idea of being any man's "bestie" if he has a woman that doesn't really know me because I would never want to make her feel any type of way. However, if there is a friend of the opposite sex then I think your partner should know them too. And then you proceed accordingly. It's up to your partner to set the standard as to how that will work for you.

I agree with thiscantbeit. When you are in a "committed" relationship, you have to be very careful with this. More importantly, if your partner is unhappy with this, why would you purposely continue with this behavior. Good luck to you. One day at a time...

Yes, my husband insist on keeping in touch with many female friends. Most of whom he had a relationship with in the past that included sex. I don't like it and don't think husbands or wives should be keeping current with past exes. It's not healthy for the relationship.

I agree with you on that Staystrong207.

Thank you for your responses! My partner refused to change his behavior and believed that the entire situation simply stemmed from my jealousy. I did pray about the situation and sought the Lord's guidance. Because my partner didn't seem to accept responsibility or care about my emotional/mental/spiritual state, I made the difficult decision to break up. I was not married to him, thank God. If I had been, the consequences of leaving the relationship would have been much worse and I would not want to get a divorce (I've never been married). However, I believe that he showed me and God allowed me to see that this is not the type of man I want to marry. Even so, I did love him very much, so this is still very difficult and sad.