From reading this board, I know a lot of people are in a similar situation.

I find it hard to imagine just forgiving that kind of betrayal. It's not something you can kind of just say sorry and move past. I would never be able to see my husband the same again after something like that. I'd always be wondering if he was comparing me to her in his head and if he'd secretly rather be somewhere else if circumstances had been different. I don't think I'd ever be able to find true joy in being with him knowing he'd momentarily cast me aside for another woman. Nothing would be the same emotionally or trust wise for me. I would always know that he's capable of that, so I'd always be worried and looking over my shoulder, and second guessing his motivations and worried he'd get infatuated with another woman. The fact is, no matter how sorry they are, cheaters usually cheat again at some point.

It doesn’t even have to be a person that has your significant other caught in the attraction machine. I’m talking addictions that compromise trust in a relationship. Maybe I’m taking it too far away from the topic. Just my inflated two cents worth.

my ex wife is an ex for a reason she had 4 online affairs going at once that all were moving towards more the last guy or the most notable of the four had 6 online relationships going at once and my ex thought she was his one and only I only know about what he was doing because the guy died and my ex posted on his online obituary how much she loved him along with the other 6 women. Anyhow bottom line they do it once they do it again we all need to move forward in life and no one can do that if they are constantly letting the past or the fear of the past happening again drag us down

There is no easy answer but this is a decision that should not be based on what is the easier thing to do. I've been there and the pain is unbearable at times. There is no line you cross and things suddenly are easier. But in my case the harder path of pushing through with commitment to my wife and family has been far more rewarding than suffering. Will it be hard tomorrow? Absolutely. There are triggers surrounding me like a floor full of mousetraps.Nothing good comes easy, but we believe we deserve easy. The best rewards only come through adversity. Have faith. You are in my prayers.

A quote that I recently stumbled upon changed the way I look at relationships: "You will never be enough for the wrong person." This isn't to say that your partner is the wrong person, but this is certainly a quote to reflect on and keep with you when it feels like everything is falling apart despite doing everything in your power to make things work. Is he willing to go to couples counseling with you? Is he making a clear and deliberate effort towards mending the pain he caused you and not cheating again? Unfortunately, as an earlier commenter said, once someone cheats, they are likely to do it again. However, this does not mean that they are in love with the person(s) they're cheating on you with. 9 times out of 10, cheaters cheat because they are dissatisfied with their current relationship in some way. Has he explained why he cheated on you? Is he willing to sit down with you, talk about the problems in your relationship, and set clear goals to make your relationship healthier and stronger? Do not get me wrong -- cheating is not acceptable in any way. He should have communicated any dissatisfaction he may have from the beginning instead of looking for a solution somewhere else (i.e. cheating). But now is the time for him to clearly tell you what is and isn't working for him, and how you two can work together to fix it. If he isn't capable of having these serious conversations with you, isn't willing to work on the relationship so that both of you are satisfied and happy, and doesn't seem to have a solid reason (or ANY reason) for his infidelity, those are clear signs that you need to walk away. You deserve someone who will love you, be faithful to you, communicate with you, and not give up when times are tough -- not someone who repeats the same negative/hurtful behavior, and certainly not someone who is just good at begging you to stay and saying "sorry." I hope this helps, and I hope you find the joy, peace, and love that you deserve. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

First, u have no reason to feel guilty. So don't
If you are still interested in your hubby as a partner, both of u need to go into counseling together and separately.
If you are not willing to look beyond his infidelity, then file for divorce. And go on with life.

Not sure if u caught him or her told u but rest assured, if u caught him, understand it may have continued.
If he had one and told u ,then u wonder why he told u? Did the woman end up being Phil from Nebraska state prison? Or did she dump him? Or some other reason ur not aware of.

Your husband obviouly thinks with his..... and bluntly, if that's what u want so be it,,,just keep in mind you need to know if u can trust him again....or every time he is on the computer will u wonder?

I am not in a similar situation but I have experienced a full blown affair and am still married. The one thing that concerns me about encouraging leaving is that-with the availability of the internet-we are going to be seeing more and more of these kinds of temptations and falls. This generation is the first to encounter this ease of access to this kind of temptation and this generation is going to have to figure out how to resist and raise above it. If your husband is truly repentant and wants and seeks your forgiveness, I would encourage that you enter in to learning the very hard but valuable quality of forgiveness which can actually, as in our case, lead to much more mature, healthy marriages. Wishing and praying that you receive peace over this situation and the hard choice that lays before you.

I know how it is. My ex wife would sit online and talk to several guys at once, without my knowledge. Adultery gained a new definition when it came to her.
Forgiveness is really hard when it comes to her game playing nonsense. But putting it all behind me and moving on is vital. What's done is done.