Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Becky123 06/07/2018

Ok, so it's been a year since I found out he was unfaithful. I went to counseling then finally a lawyer. He says he wants to get back together but does nothing I ask him to do to help heal our relationship, ie. Counseling, journaling, communicating. I don't want to get into all the issues, but I've tried and need to give up. How do I do that? How do I put him behind me and move on?

teerings3 06/08/2018

One foot in front of the other. I know it’s hard because I am there with you. I want it to work, I wished he would change but I for me must move on.

cbhmom 06/09/2018

Breathe and take it one day at a time.. I wish I could say those days won’t be filled with tears or old memories because I’m still at that point
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Becky123 06/09/2018

Thanks. I just want to feel like my old self, but not quite sure what that means. Thanks for hugs and encouragement!

jojored 06/09/2018

I found I was able to let go after I finally (finally!) realized his zero effort meant that he just didn't care to keep the relationship. I saw how much effort I was putting out versus him SAYING he wanted things to be right but not actually making any changes. It was a brutally honest gut wrenching realization. After 30+ years, I finally got it. Once I had acceptance that this should indeed be the end, things looked brighter. I got busy and started the divorce process and didn't look back, not even once.

If in your heart you know it's the end, start imagining your life without him. If you can do that easily, then it's time to take action. If you can't, you're stuck and you need either more time, or a frank dose of reality. You're in charge of what happens now. Good luck.

Becky123 06/09/2018

Thanks I know you're right. I don't know if it's my pride or my heart that hurts. Reality sucks. Today is a day I've run errands, cleaned house and still can't keep from crying. I thought all the tears were done, but there are plenty in reserve. Everyone says he won't/can't change. I'm just having a hard time realizing I'm not worth it

Becky123 06/09/2018

I feel like I'm back at the beginning again.

growthhurts 06/11/2018

Oh I'm sorry. :( Are you still going to counseling? That may help. Are you still living together or separated? When I was in limbo with my ex, a book was recommended to me. "Love Must be Tough," by James Dobson. It really helped with knowing how to get through day to day. (((hugs)))

SadAussie 06/12/2018

I am sorry. It is incredibly difficult. My ex was unfaithful to me and I struggle with it everyday. We split up 3 months ago, and I'm finding it's getting harder- not easier. The thing is, he isn't a bad guy. He was an incredibly kind and loving man. I miss him dearly.

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