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One Breath, One Step, One Day

1Daatatime
1Daatatime

That's about the only way I'm making it right now.To think I didn't even know anything was wrong and to the papers are filed and we're on our way to then end (from my view, I'm sure it's the beginning from hers).


Mu goal is to make it through each day one breath, one step, one day at a time.


I shoot for milestones...


Up at 5:00 am for coffee and 30 minutes of news (can't take anymore than that)


Feed the bottle calves


Check on cows


Let the dogs out


Clean the house


Farming chores until noon


Heck... it's noon. I made it to noon!


Lunch Break (although I eat very little these days. Who wants to cook for one and the nearest restaurant is 40 miles away. A decent one is 70 Miles.)


Feed the bottle calves


Check on cows


Back to farming... only have to make it to 3:00


3:00 another milestone.


Change into workout clothes; 2 miles on the eliptical and 30 minutes of free weights.


Feed the dogs


Shower and break


6:00pm Feed the bottle calves, put the dogs up


Make sone kind of dinner. Put in a movie and call it done for one more day.


The whole time my mind never stops. I have to work to the point of exhaustion in order to sleep. On a good note I'm getting in pretty good shpe.

shai21
shai21
I know how difficult it is to forget about her. And in the bargain you may exhaust yourself. But you are exactly on the right track. Keep yourself occupied. But it doesn't stop here. Don't just keep doing the regular routine. You will lose interest. Bring about some change. Go out on a holiday or do something that you always wanted to do but never got time to do so. Rediscover life after being single again!
shai21
shai21
Our mind is like a monkey. It will keep chatting till you give him some exciting work. Your mind needs new exciting challenges to be distracted
STex
STex
That is all you can do. Keep busy to numb the hours. If I did not have a routine I would loose my bloody mind. When cocktail hour comes it is soooo hard not to have that drink or 5. Haven't drank since the night of the "awakening". After work, the minute I get home I change clothes and hit the road. People keep saying "wow you look great", down 40lbs makes a difference. Little do they know I want to punch them in the face! Wish I felt great all the time, today has actually not been too bad. Not as much anxiety, making a point to smile and say hi to anyone in the hall. Focus on the positive. I read a great quote that said "I cant change the past and I cant know the future, but I can make today better." Cheers.
mirandac
mirandac
There is no good way thru a divorce except to
Do the best you can and feel good about what
You have done and how you behaved. It takes
Tons of maturity to get to the other side when
Our emotions and feelings are screaming and
Want to lash out at everything and everybody.
HUGS
shai21
shai21
When I divorced 5 years ago, the first thing I did is write down all my feelings on a paper. Everything good and bad. And cried and cried and released all my feelings and accepted that I have to move on. Releasing and accepting the situation is really important and then you have to be matured enough to see the good in it. It could be hard for you but coach yourself to do everything to get over it and believe you can do it.
mirandac
mirandac
I have not done well on the mind over
Matter mentality. My mind understand
All too well its my emotional self that
Has such a hard time. I stopped beating
Myself up and trying to get it to listen to
Healthy reasoning.

Thats where my tug and the stuckness
is located my emotions. It will come about
eventually in Gods timeline not mine. HUGS
leila
leila
I worked nonstop for the first month and a half, very few hours of sleep, I didn't eat at all. My day was from 4 am until 1am and when I was sleeping I would get up and check my phone just in case might of texted me.........he never did. Until one day I was driving to my class and I was falling sleep and this 18 wheeler almost hit me.
stardust7
stardust7
You're off to a great start! Baby steps for sure! Do try to mix your routine up some and treat yourself along the way too! If you haven't already, try not to avoid the pain but like someone else posted-write things down and do the work allowing yourself to grieve. Then start the healing. Start with baby steps in everything and build from there. In time start trying to find yourself again and follow your passions. I've heard somewhere that once we are happy with our single self again and are following the passions of our own that we're way more likely to cross paths with other like minded people which can lead to relationships. If you're religious remember that God is bigger than our problems and if we stop worrying about the problems he'll take care of them for us. Hang in there buddy-I've been in your shoes. I'm a little farther ahead but am seeing daylight again so I can guarantee you will in time too!