Who says you have to stop crying if thats what needs to be done just let it happen because it actually does feel better afterward. As far as the emptiness or the void from him leaving maybe only be quelled by filling that empitness with something of great comfort and im not talking about ice cream (but that can be included). Just take in something that gives you comfort but all the while understand it will be a while before you may find your full enjoyment in these things. Warm Hugs. Take Care.

My wife left me 9 months ago after 24 years. The first several months were the worst I thought. Then couple months later I learned the truth about the new boy toy who is 10 years younger than her. That hurt even more. Now I have good days and bad. Not fully healed but not completely broken anymore either. Your breakup is pretty fresh. Cry your eyes out if you need to. Be strong for your kids, mine have been my rock, they are much closer to me than her. My son who is 26 doesn't even talk to her anymore. But these are the consequences if her choice.

I so look forward to the day I am able to do this. My youngest is nine so I have nine more years to go. Not that I want her to grow up quickly, but I want my freedom back. After 26 years, and knowing full well I should not have married him in the first place, it's not getting any better. He hasn't been paying taxes and we are in danger of losing our home. I can't see following him if that happens but I have no idea how to even start the process of living on my own, supporting myself and my daughter. I don't expect any help from him. He has already told me he'll go to jail for not paying me child support because he just doesn't have it. There is no way I want to sign up for any government assistance. There's so much to think about. How do you support yourself?

Dealing with your grief is a good thing. You were married for a long time and if you need to cry, that's what you should do.

I was married for 27 years before I divorced so i know what you're talking about when you say weekends are the worst. They were my worst enemy for a while. It's all part of the process. You're pretty new to this so cut yourself some slack. You need to heal and eventually you will become comfortable with being alone (not the same as being lonely).

When you are ready you could consider joining a "meetup" group. Not a dating thing, but you could join a group with people in your age range and do fun things.

Sending support and jedi hugs
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You need to heal and eventually you will become comfortable with being alone (not the same as being lonely).

GREAT STATEMENT!! This is so true. I was lonely as hell the first several months, but now its easier being alone. Some days its actually liberating. Just do what I want when I want.