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# of breakups?

Loved1
Loved1
been back and forth with him, sometimes the breakup more obvious than not. It is better I suppose to break up over serious matters than to be treated like they never happened. Anyway it seems the reconciliations get shorter and the breakups longer. I am slowly getting empowered here. It's like I get better in stages or steps, 2 steps forward, 2 back, 1 forward, 2 back, 3 forward, 1 back... Tired of hitting new lows in this relationship. I went back this time because HE was having a tremendously hard time, and I see, he doesn't really want to change. My question, how many breakups did (does) it take you to end it, and what was different (if anything) about the last break up? Thanks for feedback and thanks for all your shares.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The thing about breakups is, most of the time, the reason for the breakup will still be there in the relationship.

So you can breakup and get back together all you want, but if nothing changes, then apparently that's what you want out of a relationship with this person.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 times in 3 months, saying he wasn't ready for a long-term relationship, but each time he came back. The last time, I broke up with him because I found him on a dating site looking for "a long-term relationship". Remind yourself that being in love is supposed to make you happy, not sad.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I broke up with my X three times in the last year we were together-(Yunno the one he stayed with me out of pity)He came begging each time telling me he loved me and missed me. Love me? Miss me? Want to work it out??I think not-want to have a quick piece of ass, and take time to hide, conceal and smuggle our assets-yeah that is more like it -reconciliation often is a ploy for people to get their ducks in order-beware!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
everyone goes through that, even people who have been married for long. its just hard to make it through another day when you're not happy. the last break up was final.... that was the only difference.
deleted_user
deleted_user
We never broke up before. He left in Sept and that was the first time in 11 years.

I can only remember 1 fight we ever had and that was 9 years ago.

Go figure.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Separated 3 times, he left twice, i left once...basically we got back together because we missed the family unit. We are a great family when all together. He decided to try to find another over the summer, unbeknownst to me, and then finally met someone, again unbeknownst to me...somehow i wasn't suprised, hurt yes, suprised no...guess i was just waiting for it to happen because it happened before. He's just not happy with me..i don't "get" him. Oh well...had an AH HA moment very recently...so tired of trying to trust him...this is the last time...lawyer sought. I AM FEELING PRETTY DAMN GOOD!
Loved1
Loved1
4 break ups, first in july lasted 1 day, 3 in the last two months lasted a week or two. And currently, since one of our breakups I found out through someone else(!), I think this might be the 5th, and it is up to ME to not go back! Reason, because I have dignity and self respect and I don't need him to see that for it to be true, and I need to act on it to keep it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
8 YEAR MARRIAGE

He moved out three times in last two years because he got caught in infidelity and lies. (over 2 dozen women) I kept begging him to come back. The third time was different. I told his boss about the coworkers he was involved with. (This after he was fired from another job when he got caught on his own and I stood by him)
He was investigated by FDOE and threatened with losing his job if he repeated the behavior.

Guess he realized I was no longer going to put up with his lies. He did not lose that job - but came close.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Seperated 4 times, should have just left my stuffed packed...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Seperated once and that was Last Oct ..by my choice..can't deal with wife and Nigerian boy toy online romance. Left for my own sanity.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Lets see 21 years together, perhaps 3/4 major disagreements - just wasn't in love with me walked out - and is not interested in counselling, so first time separated - doesn't look like any hope in getting back together - so just going to try and rebuild my life the way I can
deleted_user
deleted_user
4 times, #1, when I was pg with 3 year old, #2 last fall, #3 last winter(after Christmas) and #4, now. We have been seperated since August this time. Now it is almost the holidays and I think he is getting lonely. How many times am I supposed to take him back. Well he rolled the dice one to many times and guess what he lost. I am not taking him back unless he is really willing to change 100% and that will never happen. Everytime we split up we got closer to filing this time I did it , the divorce is filed and in waiting mode. I cant keep going back the game is over
deleted_user
deleted_user
Only ONE...after what he did...I ran for 1000 miles..no damn way am i going through any of that again!
deleted_user
deleted_user
lets see..first marriage..three breakups, divorced and he still tries to get me back...
second marriage ..havent seen nor heard from him in over a year..go figure..lol cant even file divorce without an address...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Actually you should be able to divorce by publishing notice in a legal newspaper, caring.

How many times does it take? It ain't over 'til it's over, I can tell you that. And that unless you have new ingredients you will not get new results.