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now what??

leila
leila

About two months ago he sent me an email telling me how much i broke him and hoe he needs to move on, that our tim has passed and we should be happy and that he wanted the divorced, I accepted this and it broke me into million pieces to the point that i tried to earase him from my memories and everytime i was thinking of him i would stop myself by repeating that i was in love with a memory and that he wasnt that person anymore it took me a while to feel like i was having some kind of control until about a week ago he sent me txt telling me how much he hates not being able to talk to me and he needs that from me. I cant i physically cant not anymore but i did i put myself there in that position and now like always im suffering the consequences. why do i think this time was going to be different, why he talked to me why i cant move on?? why do i still have hope on this broken marriage.........

Jamess
Jamess
Know what you want and stick to it, you want your marriage back. Don't accept anything less : friendship, communication, sex, spending time together etc. Only accept or offer the above in the context of fixing your marriage.

Because the above things ( friendship, communication, sex, spending time together etc ) are less than what you would really want : a commited marriage. Have No Contact with him whatsoever, he will get to miss you that way.
bridgie101
bridgie101
Rejecting you is a 100% personal rejection. He has rejected you. So don't be there for him. he can't have his cake and eat it too.

If he needs to discuss the breakup, maybe that is something that could be of benefit to all so go ahead. But if he wants anything else at all... not now. Tell him to get back to you after you've picked your heart up off the floor, but dealing with him right now is very painful for you and you are only prepared to do it for specific reasons.
Gutted
Gutted
Delete the e-mail and stop torturing yourself, cause he sure ain't gonna stop. Don't know your complete story but this sounds like it's tearing you apart and no one deserved that kind of treatment.
hygeia4life
hygeia4life
It takes time to let go of our attachments and the implicit belief behind them that 'it is something outside of me that will bring satisfaction, happiness, love'

But this is not true.

Love rests inside oneself.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wa5IF7x-ziA

Usually though we need people established in this understanding to help
Is recognize this as true.

He might help in dissolving some of that for you

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wa5IF7x-ziA

Xo
richmondgirl62
richmondgirl62
He is playing the victim
angelheart077
angelheart077
It's always hard when relationships end, and even more so when we still love that person. Healing takes time and space. In order for reconciliations to have their best chance for success then all the issues leading up to the break-up will need to be worked through and dealt with. Often times counseling can help work through these hard issues and be a disinterested party who can often see what we ourselves cannot because we are too close to the flame so to speak. My prayer is you'll find peace and be able to rebuild your life, I strongly encourage you to take all the time you need and allow yourself a chance to heal and steady your balance also. Hugs and prayers from Texas ; )