Just be nice to yourself! Take one day at a time!

I have never lived alone either...ever since I was 19 yrs old...but you knwo what...it isn't all that bad! yes I do live withmy folks, so it is nice to have company, but life is not so bad alone!

I am coming up on one month being out on my own alone. I actually think I am starting to like it. I get to do whatever I want, when I want. I spend extra time pampering myself. Take care of you and in time, you will find out who you are and what you want. Good Luck!!

I started by just going out and doing things to see what I loved to do now. I joined this thing called Meetup, it's online, and I play flag football, or go out salsa dancing. But I made myself get out of the house. Some time at home thinking is good. But I was getting depressed so I needed to get out.

i hear you, i will be turning 44 this year too. i haven't been alone for 17 yrs., but he was gone all week when we were married, and i dealt with it. guess what, its not so bad. i have no one to answer too, if i want to go shopping i do. i can cook whatever i like, talk on the phone to who ever i like- its a great feeling. there's no more pee on my toliet seat, toothpaste on the mirror, facial hairs all over the sink and i have the whole bed to myself!!

No one's mentioned the Remote is all yours too!!!

I'm just doing things I enjoy when I want to do them.

Be careful, because if you've never really lived alone, it can make you feel like fish out of water. For me it made the depression and separation anxiety even worse. It will make you do more of those things like screaming and drinking if you don't watch out. You'll wind up never finding yourself or just taking a long time to do it like me. Try to spend as much time as you can around friends and family and just ease into it.
GOOD LUCK!

I feel your pain. Iam on a emotional roller coaster. Not having my wife is like having a crutch pulled out from under me. i feel unbalanced. I enoy chuch That tends to help me.

I was feeling the same way and you know what? I'm finding the real me and I like her! I don't have to answer to anyone, I come and go as I please. I didn't think I would like living alone( my daughter is 16, she is never home, LOL). I'm focusing on me now and it feels good! I married and had babies so young that I never had the chance to get to know the real me. I'm finding out that age is only a number and we as women only get better with age!

Good for you for not taking it anymore! I am 48 and just got out of a 30 yr marriage. My ex had a problem with depression, alchol, drugs and was mad all the time. He just kept getting worse. I don't for one minute regret that i divorced him.It has been really hard, supporting myself and just the emotions that i have gone through.I try to stay busy with work, family and friends. We were seperated for 18mo , divorced for 3mo. now. The 18mo before it was final was hard but the peace and quiet was great & not answering to anyone but me.No mood swings , no cussing and yelling. I would not go back to where i was in my life for anything. Since the divorce is final, I guess it's the closure thing. I feel like i have been hit with a ton of bricks. I hate being alone in this house, some days i do pretty good but........some days when i'm home all i do is cry. Everyone that has been through this says it gets better. I know it will, i have joined a support group at my church and it has really helped. All these people are going through the same sort of thing and they feel your pain. I don't want to be bitter, and God knows it's not easy. I want to forgive and move on.Just take one day at a time, Be strong, Be brave and most of all take care of yourself!