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Notice one change today

Rman
Rman
Today, I am going to try and notice any POSITVE change in my behavior. Perhaps I will stike up a conversation with the mailman or something. Maybe I'll just take the time to really try and listen to what people are saying. Whatever it is, I am going to make sure I notice what I did. I'm on a quest to make myself just a little bit of a better person each day. This will be more than I did before I found out the wife wants this marriage to end. I feel that something positive HAS to come out of this mess. I just gotta keep moving foward, no matter how bad I feel. I'm going to notice any positive change in my behavior.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well you can count this as one positive change. I was more open with my daughter about how I was feeling. She is only 11, but can be very curt at times. I told her she has a right to her feelings, but she does not have the right to talk down to me when I am trying to help her. She said okay. That may seem small, but I am trying to be more direct and open with her. I want her to start thinking about how she is speaking to others, and to know that she has the power to control those words.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your post should count...I'm inspired...something positive will come from this mess...one day you will look back and be grateful (I know I hated hearing that right now too, but, I finally believe those words so I like to share them) Have a great, positive day!
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deleted_user
I love this! One positive change at a time. Mamalyn, that is a wonderful lesson for your daughter not only in dealing with you, in dealing with all peoples of the world. Hugs to all to keep walking. Kimmee
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I am really proud of you just for thinking this way. When you make someone else smile or feel good about something it's such an awesome feeling. Way to be... I smiled just reading this post.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Rman, you will find out lots about yourself through this divorce process. I like myself, or at least RESPECT myself a whole lot more than I ever did before.
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deleted_user
Agree with Jaken, journal it. Review it often.
pianogirl
pianogirl
Wow, I like this idea, too. I'm going to copy you. It's too easy to focus on external factors and not take responsibility for one's own behavior. Bravo!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good for you RM! I agree with Sandy, you will be amazed at how much you learn about yourself through this process.

Some days are easier than others, but yes it is one big learning experience. I believe we all become stronger in the end.

Take care!
deleted_user
deleted_user
All divorces and break ups have their stages and you have to go thru them all. Keep a journal, establish some routine, pick up a habit (a good one lol) something to help keep you focused thru the rough times. For me, i'm an old musclehead and very thankful that my gym is open 24/7/365 ! lol

In the immortal words of Rocky Balboa "It's not about how hard you can hit, but how hard you can GET hit and still keep moving forward."
Rman
Rman
YO ADRIAN...I DID IT!
deleted_user
deleted_user
You got it pal!! lol and a divorce is no less painful than a boxing match. You go round after round after round. You just gotta keep punchin'!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I rated your post as inspirational, thanks for sharing, and inspiring
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deleted_user
Great! Rman! I'll try and be more positive today too and do something good.