I feel the same way with V day coming up - blah. I hope that you don't really feel you may never feel that way for someone again. We have to have faith that we just haven't met the right person for us as of yet and time will tell. But in the interim, I don't blame you one bit for the way you are feeling.

I feel the same way. My birthday is next week and Vday right after it. I have been dreading both. My husband always went out of his way to make both days special. Thankfully my best friend is visiting for a week from out of state so I don't need to go through my bday alone. of course I have the kids but that's a little different.

Forunately or unfortunately my Stbx has never made Valentine, anniversary or birthdays special for me so I guess I won't be missing much. Everyone I type these things I realize wow he really had not cared for me at all..... which hurts of course.

I dread V-day this year as that was the day that my husband and I officially started dating all those years ago. Like kas2378, he always got me roses on Valentines Day along with some other things but this year will be my first year without him making it special. I hope it goes by very quickly! :(

Sick and tired of all the Vday crap in the stores. I always tried to do something special. This year, I'm on my own. I can't help to look at things in the stores. Certain things will catch my eye and I say "she would like that". Then I realize oh yeah. I don't have her heart anymore. On a postitive note...at least she never gave me an STD. After 22 years together, I never thought I'd have to get tested for that :(
Finally something negative for me turns into something postitive

yes, the dreaded "love" day. My first couple after he left were brutal, not gonna lie. This will be my 3rd one since he left and I am so much stronger. It's now just another holiday for me. I have granddaughters so now I make it about them and push all of that love crap aside. I promise you all it does get easier. Try and not dwell on the day, do something fun or different on that day. Regardless of where you all are, its just a day and will come and go just like any other day.
How about buying yourself something instead? I might just buy myself a box of chocolates and eat the whole darn thing while wearing new lingerie that HE will never get to see or touch, ha ha. HIS LOSS!!!!! Hang in there everyone!!!!!!

I feel the same as you do

We can't help but see all the love themed promotions at stores. How about looking at it as a celebration of your love for yourself and your children? This too shall pass. Time will heal all wounds. Meanwhile, try to focus on your children & yourself. Better days ahead. Sending you love & blessings.

Thank you all for your comments. It sucks that we're in this place but it's good to know that people can relate. I hope that we all receive healing and peace. - Hugs

Yea my birthday and valentines day border one another. Shit's weak. Like everything in life, i guess it is what you make it. We're allowed to feel. I went from suicidal last night to euphoric after pain killers from a dental procedure I had this afternoon kicked in. There are no objective realities. Im so thankful i dont feel like ending it anymore...I really hope it lasts. And no I can't become a drug addict over this either. Great thing about pain killers is they kill emotional pain too.

Yea my birthday and valentines day border one another: 13-14 Shit's weak. Like everything in life, i guess it is what you make it. We're allowed to feel. I went from suicidal last night to euphoric after pain killers from a dental procedure I had this afternoon kicked in. There are no objective realities. Im so thankful i dont feel like ending it anymore...I really hope it lasts. And no I can't become a drug addict over this either. Great thing about pain killers is they kill emotional pain too......Augh fuckin soon to be ex wife just picked a fight over nothing....i had an oral bone graft today, so i made myself chicken soup with matzo balls, i walked to the kitchen, tasted the soup and declared the soup perfect and my stbx sneers quietly "ok, Jesus" in a sarcastic derogative way. (You'd have to know our history and neither of us are theists) i snapped back yea mary magdolin. Blood pressure instantly rises. Why must she fuck with me? 11 years of loyalty, she cheats on me and then continues to press attacks. What's the fuckin motivation?

You're absolutely correct-nothing will ever be the same. However, I am now shooting for better than ever. We have control of our future and our happiness. As I've said here before.."don't live in the past, it will rob you of your future."

Just keep ur Head up Every1 that's what I'm doing bcuz I felt like I was drowning lastnite thinking about Stbx wife:( God threw a life preserver. My anniversary Thursday she with her boyfriend, we have 2 kids 5 n 8 so I have 2 be strong 4 them. I have the kids she left all of us! Why we still luv them? Let help one another by being determine 2 stay emotional healthy 4 our children :)

Forget about Valentine's Day! It's a commercial marketing scheme that really pisses me off. I'm not doing anything for anybody on Valentine's Day!

How about love yourself on Valentine's Day…

I'm right there with you! Had to talk to my ex today after he threw me in like three kids out like garbage.

No, nothing will ever be the same.

That could be a GOOD thing!!!

If it wasn't meant to be, then whatever is out there for you is waiting and you were just wasting your time in that particular relationship anyway.