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I just needed to come on here to get this out because no one seems to understand that I can still be in a place of sadness and hurt.
My Mom voluntaries in the same school that my ex works in, after we separated in one of our conversations she had told me that he liked to flirt with all the women. It was something I really did not want to hear, but she thought that was a helpful thing to tell me, because it would show me how rotten he still was. All it showed me was that he flirted with women even in his job besides the ones he picked up on the internet. It just made me feel bad because I dont want him to get what he wants, which is woman. I want him to feel like crap that no one wants him.
Today I was talking to her and she just had to tell me that he was in a good mood yesterday, and was talking to her, and that he is still talking to all the women there. I tried to tell her that it does not make me feel better that he is still doing this that even if he is still rotten it makes me feel bad because I dont want him to be happy.
I know I have to get to that place where how he feels, and what he does, no longer matters to me, but I am not there yet. I still want him to rot in hell and be sorry he lost me, and his family. That what he has now is not worth what he has lost, and if he is happy and flirting with these women and they are doing it back to him then he does not feel bad about not having me anymore. No one gets this because it has been a while and I guess they feel I should be over it already, but I am not. I did tell my Mom not to talk to me about him anymore and she did agree to that. I do know she was just trying to help, but she just brought me back to a bad place.
Thanks as I said I just needed to get this out. Sorry its so long.
My Mom voluntaries in the same school that my ex works in, after we separated in one of our conversations she had told me that he liked to flirt with all the women. It was something I really did not want to hear, but she thought that was a helpful thing to tell me, because it would show me how rotten he still was. All it showed me was that he flirted with women even in his job besides the ones he picked up on the internet. It just made me feel bad because I dont want him to get what he wants, which is woman. I want him to feel like crap that no one wants him.
Today I was talking to her and she just had to tell me that he was in a good mood yesterday, and was talking to her, and that he is still talking to all the women there. I tried to tell her that it does not make me feel better that he is still doing this that even if he is still rotten it makes me feel bad because I dont want him to be happy.
I know I have to get to that place where how he feels, and what he does, no longer matters to me, but I am not there yet. I still want him to rot in hell and be sorry he lost me, and his family. That what he has now is not worth what he has lost, and if he is happy and flirting with these women and they are doing it back to him then he does not feel bad about not having me anymore. No one gets this because it has been a while and I guess they feel I should be over it already, but I am not. I did tell my Mom not to talk to me about him anymore and she did agree to that. I do know she was just trying to help, but she just brought me back to a bad place.
Thanks as I said I just needed to get this out. Sorry its so long.
There's nothing you can do about the past, but you have full control over your "now".
You are right to tell your mother that you don't want to hear about what your ex is doing. I hope you are seeing a counselor or involved in a Divorce Care group. That will help too.
I hope your mom respects your wishes to not discuss your ex with you. I'm sorry that you had experience that in the first place.
If you're interested in a divorce care group, many churches offer them
http://www.divorcecare.com/
I think your Mom needs to be respectful of what you want right now-a good mom would. She should stop telling you what he is up to, you dont need to be concerned about that. Concern yourself with you!
I know how you feel I want my ex to be in pain and I know he is on some level but I do still care about him and want him to live his life. It'll take you a while but you'll feel this eventually too.
Sorry this happened to you ((((hugs)))
Mavsgirl thanks for that site I am going to look into that. I know I really still need to get help to get through this.
I also know that the best thing is to not have people get back to me on what he doing are how he feels even if is that he feels rotten, even though that is something I would want to hear