Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
If all goes as planned, I'm going to be filing a divorce I don't want sometime Thursday.
I've been dreading this for awhile but I know I need to do it as the first true step to moving forward with the rest of my life. I've had to do all the work on it, much of it while in tears as I see the lady I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with moving on with another man. Life isn't fair sometimes.
If there is a bright spot, we don't have any kids and there is no real estate and all of the belongings have long been divided. She makes a little more money than I do so there isn't any support issue. Compared to most divorces, this is going to be easy on the legal end but I'm finding it to be hell on the emotional end.
I don't think she is having any problem at all but again, she's got her new guy to occupy her time and her heart. I'm trying to pick up the pieces of my shattered heart and soul not to mention sense of self worth. I'm not a bad guy to live with but some of the things she said to me were cruel and cut me to the bone. I guess her wanting out is probably for the best in her thinking as she says that way we can both get on with life, but I can't call it living feeling the way I have these past few weeks.
I know it's going to take time to heal and there will be a lot of tears. I never thought I'd be going thru this at this point in my life. If you have a prayer for strength that you can share, I could sure use one..
I've been dreading this for awhile but I know I need to do it as the first true step to moving forward with the rest of my life. I've had to do all the work on it, much of it while in tears as I see the lady I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with moving on with another man. Life isn't fair sometimes.
If there is a bright spot, we don't have any kids and there is no real estate and all of the belongings have long been divided. She makes a little more money than I do so there isn't any support issue. Compared to most divorces, this is going to be easy on the legal end but I'm finding it to be hell on the emotional end.
I don't think she is having any problem at all but again, she's got her new guy to occupy her time and her heart. I'm trying to pick up the pieces of my shattered heart and soul not to mention sense of self worth. I'm not a bad guy to live with but some of the things she said to me were cruel and cut me to the bone. I guess her wanting out is probably for the best in her thinking as she says that way we can both get on with life, but I can't call it living feeling the way I have these past few weeks.
I know it's going to take time to heal and there will be a lot of tears. I never thought I'd be going thru this at this point in my life. If you have a prayer for strength that you can share, I could sure use one..
When I first found out about her new love, I felt like ending it but luckily I pulled my head out of my ass. Now I need to do the same thing. At times I feel strongest when I get mad at her. Maybe that is the path to take for now until the hurt subsides a bit. I hate feeling like this but I've got to find what's going to help me cope the best.
I hear you and know the feeling. Looking back on it, I don't think my XGF said the things she said to hurt me, but part of a battle within herself to validate her own feelings and decision. I was just collateral damage.
Deep down inside there was a part of me that knew it was best for both of us, however another part of me resisted that conclusion. In truth that was the root cause of all the pain.
#5 - Your advice is really awesome. Unfortunately what he's going through affects even his appetite. He knows there are things to enjoy - but there's a time to morn and a divorce is one of them for many. With time his load will lift and he'll find a reason to smile again, peace and serenity will return.
Poster - hang in there. I feel your pain.
But, it also validates how little they respect us, which seems sad, but it's also a good thing to know. Knowing he would disrespect me like that helped me to decide that being on my own was better than choosing to stick with someone who lies and cheats.
Buy yourself something awesome, journal, post here, force yourself outside even if the idea makes you sick. Once the decision is made, you will have a definite direction...and, sometimes,that is relief and comforting at times.
I cannot thank everyone here enough for their love and support. You guys are helping in ways you can't imagine and you have my sincere gratitude!!!
Try to be good to yourself the next few days.