Hi CrisiLyn,
It saddens me to hear what you are enduring. I am going through something very similar. But as tough and painful it maybe the one thing I know is I want to be with a person that wants to be with me. If a person no longer wants to be in a relationship or marriage I rather them go and be happy. Why? Because your happiness is important. Guess what there is someone for everyone. Oh and yes you can get another man, marry another guy who loves more than anything. Don't let him waste your time. Your time is precious and you have to get ready for your new chapter.

CrisiLyn- my situation is almost exactly the same as yours. After 18 years and two beautiful daughters, my wife sent me an email saying she doesn't love me anymore. Meanwhile she has a new wardrobe, new jewelry and new perfume. She is constantly texting somebody and disappears 5-6 hours at a time.
What you are going thru sucks but you need to take care of yourself so you can survive this hellish situation. Please see your family Dr, a therapist, spend time on this site, journal. I am doing all those things and while the pain, shock and confusion is still there, I am becoming a better and much stronger person. I have bad days (like today) but I am still fighting the good fight. Friend me and I will support you any way I can. HUGS

Yes, shock and awe.... The person you thought you knew was a sham

My wife did the same...instantly like somebody flipped a switch and then gave me reasons like "we grew apart".
We need to survive this because we deserve better and they deserve worse. Please, please take care of yourself!!

Thank you for the kind words. I wish the pain would hurt a little less. I am seeing a therapist over all of this and trying to determine a sense of independence in all of this. I keep hoping one day it will be easy. I wish I could turn off my love for him like he did for me. What are some things yall do to make it more bearable? We don't have children, just a furbaby.

I am almost in the same position as u. I just don't understand how people suddenly can change so quickly. The worst part of it all is knowing that they are choosing this other person that they barely know over you who they have known for 10+ years. I think that's the worst part of it all. Bc we would never do that. I think it comes down to this other person is showing them attention and they are so mesmerized by the whole thing. It's immature on their part and selfish the way they respond to it. And any women who would be willing to even talk to a Married man is a POS and obviously a terrible person. The only thing I can say is that ur upset bc he's doing this and bc it will kill u if he just wants to be with her. But u have to think more about the type of person that SHE is. Bc she's going to F him over bc she's not a good person at heart and I hope it destroys him forever. That's the only thing I would keep thinking of.

So sorry you are going through this. I too in very much the same boat and it sucks plain and simple. You think you know somebody.....hang in there

I, and so many others, feel your pain so know that you aren't alone. Mine was 20 years, married for 16. It happened Oct. 10 when he told me he no longer loved me and he was interested in aomeone else. The shock and disbelief has not lessened. The depression has not subsided. Let out your feelings, have a good cry, every day if you have to. But talk to someone. Don't feel alone, there are so many great people on here willing to just listen. *hugs*

Thank you all for the kind
Words. It means a lot. I know this soon will pass and one day I'll be able to move forward a stronger person, but I'll always think of him and have a special place in my heart. Even if he doesn't feel that way.

Something like this happened to me, she said I don't love you anymore and wanted me and my kids to get out of the car in the middle of nowhere. I feel your pain.

It's so sad to hear this. If he found someone else for him means, just let him go. That's what I have to say. Broken glasses are difficult to attach. For him, everything is over between you both. And I am sure that he will realize your value one day. Please go on with your life. Take care of yourself. A better life is waiting for you. Find a man for you and live your life. God bless!

I hope you are in therapy to help guide you
At This time you need all the emotional Help
you can gather. There is also divorce Care to
help with the grieving and divorce Process.

I could not have lived with him after he stated
he Wanted a divorce. We had 3 real bad years
together but no lets get divorced talk.

Once thats uttered the gloves are off and things
get hostile. He moved in with his mother after
stating that And he wanted a better relationship
with his friend and a divorce.

Much of the time its not really been a sudden
decision. They have Been emotionally checked
out for awhile and thinking about their next move.

I am sorry for all your hurt and pain HUGS