Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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you know I've been in right state. Well I still am. I haven't eaten or left my house since Wednesday. I have cried and cried and cried. I've missed my husband so much. Anyway he rings and I actually answered my phone because I have missed him. He wanted to know if there was any mail there for him. I said yes there was. And he asked could he pick it up. I said yes . I know I shouldn't have but I really needed to see his face. But didn't tell him that. I got myself looking nice and sat all evening waiting and he never came. I was crying again .
That was Thursday.
On Friday he calls and collects his mail. I didn't cry in front of hit but I did give him a hug. He asked how I was and left. He'd said he was going out Friday night but would give me a ring when he got home. Which he didn't. I lay awake all night waiting for that phone call that never came. This morning he calls up and I let him in. We chat and again I hugged him. He was cold towards me. I asked what was wrong and he said I'd hurt him by not taking his calls and he started crying . I held him and felt bad. Told him I hadn't been well. I then asked him if he was seeing anyone as we are separated. He said yes he had been. My heart felt broken. I said who is she ? And pretended it didn't hurt. He laughed and said one of your friends. I asked who and he said a name. Then he said she won't leave me alone she keeps calling. I was heartbroken and it showed. He then aid he was joking. That he had been seeing someone but I didn't know her. He then left after saying he was going out again tonight . When he left I cried buckets. And rang and rang the friend he mentioned because I felt I had to know for sure. She was annoyed. She said no way. I wouldn't do that to you. He's messing with your head. The sooner you get rid of him the better. But in in bits. I know I shouldn't have let him in. I've gone against everything I know and I feel ashamed to tell you all. But I needed to just see him. See how I felt. And this is the result. I'm so unhappy . He also said if by any chance I want him back he would have to think about it because I've hurt him and ignored his tears over the last few weeks. I don't know what's wrong with me. I can't eat I can't sleep g just want him. How stupid am I?
you know I've been in right state. Well I still am. I haven't eaten or left my house since Wednesday. I have cried and cried and cried. I've missed my husband so much. Anyway he rings and I actually answered my phone because I have missed him. He wanted to know if there was any mail there for him. I said yes there was. And he asked could he pick it up. I said yes . I know I shouldn't have but I really needed to see his face. But didn't tell him that. I got myself looking nice and sat all evening waiting and he never came. I was crying again .
That was Thursday.
On Friday he calls and collects his mail. I didn't cry in front of hit but I did give him a hug. He asked how I was and left. He'd said he was going out Friday night but would give me a ring when he got home. Which he didn't. I lay awake all night waiting for that phone call that never came. This morning he calls up and I let him in. We chat and again I hugged him. He was cold towards me. I asked what was wrong and he said I'd hurt him by not taking his calls and he started crying . I held him and felt bad. Told him I hadn't been well. I then asked him if he was seeing anyone as we are separated. He said yes he had been. My heart felt broken. I said who is she ? And pretended it didn't hurt. He laughed and said one of your friends. I asked who and he said a name. Then he said she won't leave me alone she keeps calling. I was heartbroken and it showed. He then aid he was joking. That he had been seeing someone but I didn't know her. He then left after saying he was going out again tonight . When he left I cried buckets. And rang and rang the friend he mentioned because I felt I had to know for sure. She was annoyed. She said no way. I wouldn't do that to you. He's messing with your head. The sooner you get rid of him the better. But in in bits. I know I shouldn't have let him in. I've gone against everything I know and I feel ashamed to tell you all. But I needed to just see him. See how I felt. And this is the result. I'm so unhappy . He also said if by any chance I want him back he would have to think about it because I've hurt him and ignored his tears over the last few weeks. I don't know what's wrong with me. I can't eat I can't sleep g just want him. How stupid am I?
I have not seen my STBX since September 8th and she will be reactivating the proceedings next week. I know exactly what you are feeling.....
I spent 9+ years with her and have so many great memories.....memories I have to get past because I don't have a choice. She says she feels nothing for me anymore and that has hurt me to the core.
We both need to look to the future and not in the rear view mirror. Please try to do that and know that there is someone out there that will love you for who you are....and happiness is possible again.
By Bishop T. D. Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you:
let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us.
[1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over.
Let me tell you something.
I've got the gift of good-bye.
It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye.
It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.
LET THEM GO!!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains......
LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth.....
LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge.....
LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ...
LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude ....
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better ........
LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him....
LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship ......
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves .......
LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed...
LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to.....
LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.....
GOD is doing a new thing!!!
LET IT GO!!!
Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then.....
LET IT GO!!!
"The Battle is not yours, it is the Lord's!!!"
You know you screwed up, so there's no point in pointing it out. Start now going back to the traction you gained when you were no contacting him, or making head way with the law. THIS was a stumbling bloc.k...no one is perfect, and we all make mistakes.
Remember, when you feel bad, how this "prize" gloated about seeing someone, and then cracked a joke it was your friend. Remember how he enjoyed making you second-guess yourself.
Everytime you think you miss him or want him back, remember WHAT you're inviting back.
I know it's hard...trust me, I do. BUT, I also know that a big part of trying to move forward is making sure YOU are taken care of, and right now, you need to focus on YOU. Your emotional. physical and mental health have ben suffering.
Don't beat yourself up :)
You tell us you are weak, stupid and it all is too much to bear, but you certainly garnered super strength to call another woman that you thought your husband was seeing. From now on, step up on here and stop this you're weak, you're stupid and this is all too much to bear. We all know you have the strength within you and you're giving in to this. It's time to step up because we know you have the ability to do it.
You make the mistake and opened up to the snake (your husband) and he treated you poorly as was his usual. You don't miss that.
I saw this on Google+ and thought how true yet sad is this...
"When you love someone...truly love them, friend or lover, you lay your heart open to them. You give them a part of yourself that you give to no one else, and you let them inside a part of you that only they can hurt...you literally hand them the razor with a map of where to cut deepest and most painfully on your heart and soul." Sherrilyn Kenyon.