Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi all,
My husband and I separated 5 months ago and he has since filed for divorce. It has been as smooth as a divorce can be, though I reel for a few moments each time the divorce proceeding shows progress or a person hears about the end of our marriage. We were together 18 years, married for 8, but I am mourning very little for him. I don't get it as we had a great friendship and marriage for a long time, travelled the world and had great mutual friendships. I disconnected emotionally and physically over the past couple of years, but felt he let me go. We basically grew apart, and now removing him from my life has been painful for the first couple of months but I'm not sure for the right reasons. I know we loved each other but I can barely recall even a handful of great memories with him. Am I in denial? Blocking it out? Is it going to hit me like a ton of bricks when I sign the papers or have to pay out the settlement? I know I didn't waste those years but what am I feeling?
You are okay and moving forward in a healthy way.
Personally i don't think the healing even starts Until
the divorce and decree are in place. Its legally Finally
Over, no more hopes for last minute reprieves, its done.
The day of the divorce was sad day but i had enough
divorce care by the Point i was okay emotionally.
Everybody is a little different on how they recover from
Divorce. Divorce should be grieved along with its losses,
sometimes If its delayed it can run into Delayed grief.
Do you think You already did your grieving. Generally
checked Out spouses have already done theirs and
have Already emotionally disconnected and moved
On just not physically yet.
My ex had no trouble bonding with another woman
Before we were divorced. That was something i could
never have done, the thoughts of another man does
Not even appeal to me, One day i hope, HUGS
I recently read a quote by Buddha..
He was asked whats the difference between I like you vs I love you.
His answer was its like a flower...A flower that you like you pluck it and hold it...While a flower that you love you water it everyday. In the end I didn't water the flower for sure...
I'm ready to move on..while she is hanging on...
HUGS