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not even a month.

Treh
Treh

the love of my life left me not even a month ago. the first noght she was sad and said she wanted this to work in the future. the next day dhe said she cant see thi working. she told me to move on and find someone else. she toldme to sell the ring (that relly hurts). now shes texing guys and going to ones house till about 2 or 3 in the morning and i dont know how to take it. our anniversary was 3 months away, it would have been 4 years. im still so in love with her but she said shes not at all in love with me. she said she cant see this every working out but when i asked her if this was 100% the end she said she doesnt know cause she cant see the future. i cant move on but i dont want to. all i want is a life with her. i feel so lost.

kingpenguin
kingpenguin
Embrace your feelings, don’t hold them in. Hang out with old friends who know you well, confide in them. When you hang out lament half the time about your wife, the other half joke, laugh and play like you and your friends used to. Rinse and repeat until you sigh when you think of your wife. Get to a stable place before you make any big decisions.

Talk it out here, with a therapist or friends. Family is great, they love, but their advice is biased.

Take care of yourself today, hour by hour if need be. Journal all your thoughts. Get those feelings out. Don’t bottle them up. Dwelling is a hell. Let it out.
kingpenguin
kingpenguin
You are not alone. You might feel lonely, but you are NOT alone.
Treh
Treh
she wasnt my wife, I didnt get the chance to ask her. thank you though. I really dont wanna see my old friends, i dont know why but i just dont wanna see the faces i saw when i was happy with her. and trust me i let it out. i scream and cry everyday like clock work, cause im super manly. we have a 3 yr old, and she is barely around anymore. everyday but only for a little bit. i want to remedy things but im having so much trouble. thanks again though, really.
justbreathing
justbreathing
She has already checked out. You have to move on. Even if she changes her mind now, it’s only temporary. She’ll pull this number on you again and again and again until you break all contact with her and move on. I can almost guarantee you on this. I am sorry if I sound insensitive but I’m speaking the truth and from experience. You think you can’t move on without her, but believe me, people are stronger then they think. I didn’t think I can make it through alive, but I did, and I am. I am so much happier now. I’ve been with my ex for 24 years, 21 married. But I still made it. You can too. I promise!