Where do men go when they are the ones being abused?  Nowhere. There is nothing. I'm supposed to suck it up like a man, be strong like nothing happened. Her lies continue and they will never stop. 

6 months ago, I was charged with assault because of her lies. Not a violent bone in my body. I took her phone to see who she was cheating with. For years she abused me by name calling, lying, yelling, throwing things at me and hitting me. She steals my money by draining the bank accounts and charging up the line of credit. But that's ok, I'm charged because she made the call, she's scared and wanted me out of the house. She wins

Months go by and I find out it was worse then I thought. She was with many men, shady men, strangers she'd meet at a bar or online. She brings the men home to bed them with my kids there. But nobody cares. Everyone's afraid to say anything. They don't want to set her off. My daughter tells me one guy gave her the creeps. One night at 3:30am he came knocking on the door drunk. My daughter learned not to open stbx bedroom door...when it is closed that means a man is in there. Stbx tells my son at night, not to lock the door...so and so is coming over in the middle of the night. Guys come and go, I would not be surprised if she is a call girl.  But it does not matter, nobody cares.  Everyone I call or talk to doesn't care. She's using the system against me.

Kids tell me there is hardly any groceries in the house.  I suppose that's my fault too. She has her own business yet won't pay bills.  She goes to bars every night, drives drunk, I suspect drugs with the people she's hanging with. She continues to manipulate the people in her life to do things for her, even the kids.  She bribes them, threatens them, bats her eyes at them to get what she wants.  She has no responsibilities at all. Just plays all day, not a care in the world, yet I get the phone calls from debt collectors to pay her bills. But that's ok because nobody cares. 

She threatens to call the cops on my son twice. Talks bad and still calls me names to my kids.  Blackmails my kids to get them to cancel their visits with me. She is still abusing me financially and mentally, yet it is ok. I'm a man, I'm the bad guy. I'm the one going to therapy, joined a divorce group, working my ass off to maintain my sanity. Yet not much help out there for someone like me. If I were her, there is no way anybody would let my daughter live there, they'd take her away. She is a woman therefore her actions are ok I guess.

The justice system is slow, the divorce process is slow. CAS (children's aid in Canada) do not seem to care because my kids are 18 & 15. I've tried to get my kids into therapy but she is always there to interject and put a stop to it. My daughter has told me she wanted to talk to someone but mom always cancels the appointment. I had her go talk to school counselor and told her they would help and keep it all confidential...but guess what? Some how my stbx intervened. They sent my daughter a permission form which is likely in the garbage now.  My stbx is narcissistic, very controlling and manipulative. She always gets her way.

Lawyers send me forms to fill out. They give me a 2 week deadline. I fill them out and wait.  She gets deadline and always goes past it by months! If I'm late, I'm not cooperating, shes late, it don't matter. 

Im tired, exhausted and feel like giving up at times.  I don't get it.  I'm documenting everything she has said and is doing. She lies and I provide proof to the lawyers and she tries to get cops to charge me with stalking. When will all this nonsense stop?  6 months and counting. I don't love her, I hate her. I hate what she has done to me, I hate what she is saying and doing to my kids. I hate how she manipulates them. My son was to come over today after ball practice but must go home to cut the grass because she don't know how. He feels bad and feels the need to help her. But really, it's Saturday night and she is going out for the night. Pass her responsiblies onto someone else. I hate myself for letting this prick manipulate me for 22 years!

I could post a 100 pages of things that have happen and what that narcissistic son of a bitch has done to me and my family, but why bother? Nobody believes me. Nobody really cares.