It's 1:52am and my mind is racing as I lay here crying. So I'm right there with you! I'm mentally and physically exhausted. I take Tylenol PM each night and it helps to get me to sleep but it doesn't keep me sleeping long. At least it's a few hours when my mind can shut down. You might try it.

Yes, I have been there to where I wasted hours upon hours thinking about the man that I broke up with and couldn't even understand how I could spend five or more hours just lying in bed thinking about him going over the situation.

It was only until I pinpointed the reasons why the breakup happened and came to grips with my part which was not any this person literally was am emotional vampire! These people are controlling and manipulative and are sad on the inside. You have to find a way to change the shift your thoughts through meditation pushing what happened to the back of your mind and putting a reason for why it happened it could also have been the person's fault solely. How I got free was through meditating to Kelly Howells Universe mind 1 and 2 and just pushing the thought of this man out of my mind and telling myself the reasons why it didn't work out and how he contributed to the end factor and I fell asleep and did not wake up stay up all night ever since

People break up, one of the two sometimes starts regretting things while the other one becomes distant or thinks they canndo better. Some cheat to get a thrill or to prove they can still get it from whomover they want while their spouse whom they promised in their vows that they would be the last one they woukd do that to....when u find out u were cheated on several times when u realize he/she made u feel everything was ur fault...be it u didnt love them enough or same wild unabandoned love, u had that liok of mistrust or said something that brought up all that betrayel or just because they are in public service & woumd be fired if found out just how bad a person they really are so they plan an escape route by hiding you from co workers and biss ..alienate u from their friends and discourage u from being social or being around feiends and family then when timing is right go in for the kill and leave u by saying "u dont love me the same do u, u will never trust me again so why are we still married"? Then within 2 weeks ur divorced, homeless since he rigged paperwork & he actually owed the 2 houses not u, and ur in a very small town & look to just have fallen out of love and crushed him so ur the bad person while all the while he is trying to hook up with one of those several he cheated on u again on the same day u signed divorce papers but he acts as though his world is ending for 2 months so he can look like the victim when his bosses wife hooks him up with some nice woman who will take care of him poor baby.... Thats only some of what i go through on a daily bases...i wanted to call the chief stupid wife and say look at these videos and oics if him cheating, liok at these texts see the newest one from the HUSBAND of the one he just tried to hook up with again on facebook??? The coupke took a picture of the screen to prove it to me because they had decided to stay together and then here goes my spouse looking fir ez sex on same day i begged him not to go thru with divorce love me stay with me i will believe u if u dont cheat on me again...blah blah blah but no he wanted divorce before 6 years because then id actually be intitled to alimony etc ....he used me to buy a house then made me sale it then he bought 3 more but last 2 werent really mine...prob did the banker chick...he has karisma and charm galore...he can get a telemarketer to buy what hes selling....anyway he said he wantes to date me stay friends see where it goes see if i can trust him again...that he lived me i was the live if his life blah blah blah..not interested in anyone nor going out with anyone else blah blah blah-get my point? Its been 3 months, i had to go home to do some banking stuff and vusit grown children...i saw him, big mistake, he looked so darn good, he told me i looked good, glad i was happy & when i told him i hated this that i still loved him why did u do this to me? He said he was seeing someone, i said u just told me u love me but ur screwing someine else now...i said stop seeing her take me back...he said no he didnt want to he wantes to see how this goes blah blah blah. So much for me being the love of his life. Moral of story-stay strong... Maybe if it doesnt work out for her/him and were still single then they might come back to us?? But do we really want to be the back up or would we really be their choice as their spouse for the rest of our lives & stay faithful or woukd we be the stupid ones that they can get to take care of them, put up with them and be used for the rest of our lives? Set them free and if they come back its meant to? Or it means love is truly blind until one of u gets a disease from their transgressions against us? I am trying to believe i am better off alone or eventually with someone that is loyal and believes in vows but until then yes, sleep is hard coming, working is like a zombie induced state, almost to that hate stage which im to sweet of a person, i even quit my state job, moved 4 states away & i am miserable still but they say time heals, last time i kicked him out it was 6 months but we saw each other within a month and got back together in 2 months (i didnt know about all the others he was still seeing during that time) but didnt move back in with me until 6th month with stipulation i sale my house and we buy one together....huge mistake...5 years later im stuck with renovation loan bills & no house & no husband and a dead end job alone in Florida. Great idea....i wonder how it woukd if been if i woukd if stayed clueless or acted clueless & not told the truth about not thinking i loved him the same way i did before i knew about all the other women....i beat myself up & i am not the blame ...h even admitted i was best at everything and inwas mire than enough for him but he had a problem and wasnt capable of loving then said he lived me and he made the biggest mistake if his life leaving me.....but he wants tonsee how this new one goes..mmwow..maybe he learned how to not tell or not seem to be such a douche bag...everyone else thinks hes just the greatest...they dont know what hed say about them to me at home or how he really is just a sex addict, boozer, mental and emotional abuser that was getting physical..mayne this one will be the right one for him...#4 because as #3 i wasnt lucky no charm there. So if u were at fault in marriage dissolving change ur ways-learn from ur mistakes and do not repeat them-dont tell her ur oast skim over it but dont tell her...we say we want to know but really we dont-were like elephants-we dont forget ur past ur present and we will hold it against u in mistrust even when we dont mean to....he said since i didnt trust him & was getting blamed he might at well have fun...fun? Wow using me for a maid and cook with occassion sex release whike others got that charm and affection and passion-no thank you-better off alone with one of those cooling topper things on my mattress and lots of pillows...thats how i get fww hours of sleep and force myself awaje if i start dreaming about him....remember how crappy it felt stop remembering the good parts....that helps a lot-promise. I dont know if it was u or her that did wrong ir both but stop pining over her, find out who u are, do things for ur self and dont just rebound on to the next one...it will be a lie. Learn who u are before u look for who u want with u for the rest if ur life-we dont have much life left in great health and were in aging process...u gotta like the person cause we are fading and if u dont like them now u will never stay with them.

Oh, i forgot to say that im not mad at u anymore but that was befire he admitted to seeing someone else.....then he asked while i was walking to my car, "why does it matter if im seeing someone"? I said "for some damn reason, im still in love with u". Got in my car him running up to my window with no words but just a liok of concern-hes assistant chief if police-guess he was afraid i would run my car into our or HIS house or car.....probably because he didnt call me or email me after- nothing...that was a week and 2 days ago. Drama...im so tired if it..

Try melatonin to help you sleep, it's natural and helped me. This is temporary and unfortunately normal as your brain processes the split